What is the general MN opinion of checking your partner's emails/texts/etc?

[yorkshirepudding]

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I don't. He doesn't.

there was a long thread on this recently, you might find your answer in there:

mumsnet.com/Talk/7/520327

hope that helps

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ahem

damn you postingforawhilenow

Only if he asks. There was a thread about this recently. I have looked over his inbox if he leaves it open but don't read his emails. I have read texts but not proud of it - he had a woman 'stalking' him (ok, not really, just sending weird texts and stuff, but she lives in spain so I'm not really worried...!) and I wanted to see what she had written. Very occasionally I look at his mobile inbox to check if she has text him (he wouldn't remember to tell me) but I only look at the names, not the actual messages. I'd be annoyed if he did that to me though.
However, all my passwords are saved on the computer so he could read my emails/facebook if he wanted, but I don't think he does.

I learnt a lesson about spying when I hacked into his emails a couple of years ago and misread the date of one to his ex GF, thought he was cheating on me but I read the year wrong! I felt really quite stupid

I wouldn't read his and hope the same, although I do sometimes ask him to check my emails for me. That's with an unspoken understanding that he'll only read the ones I've asked for.

It's not that I'd be bothered about him seeing anything, I just think it's private. And, if he were to look, I'd assume he was suspicious in some way, which would annoy me.

DH is a driving instructor so if he gets a text or call and he's not in the room (for this read "in the loo for half an hour sodding reading again!") I'll answer/check it for him. He doesn't mind. PLus I check his bills (for his accounts) - I know most of his pupils' numbers anyway.
He can check mine as much as he likes - no fecker wants to text me nefariously!

I'd do it. I do do it. I don't expect I'll find anything unpleasant, but his business is my business and vice versa. And he normally has emails and texts from family that I reply to because he's forgotten. Also, whoever happens to go to the door first will open the mail. Doesn't matter who does it as long as one of us deals with it. Although it does piss me off when he opens the mail and puts it somewhere and there was a date for a hospital appointment for me and I come across it a week after the appt date! We just don't have anything that's for him or for me, iyswim.

Apart from my hospital appt!

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a miss is as good as a mile, shewillbeloved [groin]

those five seconds made all the difference

NEED I SAY THAT I MEANT GRIN NOT GROIN?!!!

I would hate him open any of my 'good' mail - that's the highlight of the day! He's welcome to any bills in my name though.

I leave my mobile lying around/dh often uses my computer if his is not switched on, I have nothing to hide. But if he started reading my texts/emails I would want to know why, iyswim?

Well I open all the post usually cos I'm at home when it arrives. I also check his emails too, not because I don't trust him but because he usually forgets for ages and there's occassionally something important in there.

As for texts, I sometimes read his if I'm nearest his phone or whatever or he shows me them if it's something interesting.

He never bothers reading my texts cos it's only ever junk from the mobile phone company . The only email he ever reads is the MN talk round up cos he thinks it's funny!!!

We never look at each other's emails or phones (as far as I know, anyway!).

i checked my husbands texts once and they were so BORING