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Goldmedal2024 · 30/11/2024 00:29

Hi,

I've been married for 5 years and have two young children - a toddler and baby. Our relationship has been mostly good over the years however there have been some issues which crop up occasionally mainly due to his immaturity/childish behaviour at times. Nothing major other than him acting like a petulant child and just being difficult/awkward.

I've recently had my second baby so hormones are still settling down and I have OCD which has flared up over the last year or so which I am taking medication for. I don't think our relationship is in a great place ATM and I'm not sure what to do. When we are getting on things are fine but if we have an arguement I'm ready to throw in the towel and end it as I can't keep doing this and it ends up making my OCD worse as I get stressed which he knows. Intimacy is non existent as I just don't have those feelings towards him anymore. I almost feel like we've got to a point where the relationship can't recover due to how I now feel about him.

We are still together, from my point of view anyway, only due to the fact that I don't want to only have my children 50% of the time. When we are getting on, I am happy to stay together but even then I still have no romantic feelings towards him and it feels more like a friendship than anything else.

I just wonder if anyone else has been through this and what you did to get things back on track? Or is the relationship pretty much over and can't be fixed?

Thanks

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 30/11/2024 07:13

Once resentment has set in it’s the end IMO, but as you haven’t long since had a baby I would wonder if hormones is playing a part. Are you breast feeding?
Have you talked, have you told him what he’s doing wrong and does he actually want to make it better? Would he go to counselling?

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