Asked out on a date but not heard anything

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Got asked out for lunch last weekend and suggested we move to tomorrow as I wouldn’t be around. We settled on lunch at a local restaurant and time / date confirmed. But we were chit chatting last Monday eve and he hasn’t replied to my last message then. Tbh I don’t really want to go now, it feels like chore! Should I turn up? Is this his way of cancelling?

Have you sent him a message to check whether the date is still on?
If the time and date have already been confirmed, maybe he thinks that is enough? Why does it feel like a chore, do you like him or not?

I wouldn't turn up, he hasn't replied all week.

Message now to check he’s still on for it. Then if he doesn’t reply you don’t go.

“Hello - just checking we are still on for tomorrow? Looking forward to lunch!” or something similar.

How about a brief message: 'Did we say we'd meet for lunch tomorrow? Please let me know this evening if it's on.' Then you can assume not unless you get an enthusiastic reply.

I'd assume it was off if I'd not heard from him since Monday.

I'd agree with the PPs saying to text him to see if it's still on IF you actually want to go.

However, I get the impression you don't even actually want to go, and you've said it feels like a chore.

I totally get that it's been left a bit in limbo. But it's not like you need him to confirm if it's on or not. Why's he the one you're waiting on to call the shots?! If you cba going now and aren't feeling it, take control and send a simple message:

"Hey, I'm assuming we're not meeting tomorrow. As I've not heard from you I've made other plans. Wish you all the best"

Was your last message on Monday a question that needed a reply? I wouldn't connect it to the confirmed plans for lunch unless it was related in some way. I'd assume the date is still on as it was all arranged and maybe he's been busy since the chit chat. If you just don't want to go, say somethings come up and call it off.

People are always on their phones, if you’ve not heard from him I’d say he’s backed out. Text him and ask him ! It should be exciting at the start of dating not a chore though !

I'd block him

Did your message require a reply?

Maybe he thinks dates set, no further effort required so if you've actually made solid plans you'll need to let him know you won't be there.

No contact all week is a red flag for sure.

Me too. Anyone who wants to meet you will have checked in by now.

I'd assume he's talking to multiple people and thinks you're set for this weekend job done.

The last message I sent was me asking him for recommendations on something and this was 5 days ago. We haven’t exchanged numbers and are still on the app

Frustrating.

It's not you though, it's just par for the course in dating.

I'd move on.

You have been ghosted

Just unmatch him then.

OLD is a tough game 🥲

I wouldn't turn up if you haven't had a reply to that message

Are you new to onlide dating, OP? This is incredibly common.