Hello can anyone offer some advice to the following situation please.
A husband and wife have been together 8 years, married for 2 of them. Out of the blue the wife says she isn’t happy within the relationship with main points being husband spends too much time on the pc over the weekend and she wants more affection.
Around the same time she stated this, she changes the password to her phone and just acts suspicious by not leaving it lying around and always putting it down when I husband sits next to her.
The husband admits he has spent too much time on the pc and decides that his relationship is more important. He spends the next 6 days trying to give her lots more affection and doesn’t go on his pc over the weekend. However she does not show any efforts of affection of her own accord. She hugs and kisses him in response to him doing it to her only. She is distant and always on her phone.
On the 7th day the wife says it’s no longer working and wants to end the relationship telling him she only loves him as a friend and the fact that he is their daughters father. She states she has no romantic love for him anymore as a husband.
The husband begs and pleads constantly in the morning for her not to do this and she eventually says yes they can try.
The next morning she says she’s changed her mind and in fact only stated she took him back out of guilt as she seen it was upsetting him.
That evening she sleeps in the spare room. When he gets home from work at 4:30 am, he opens the spare room door to see if she’s awake as he wants to talk to her and sees the wife on her phone, she immediately moves the phone under the blanket as if to hide something. The husband asks to see her phone as he suspects she is cheating on him but she rejects his request and says he no longer has any right to look at her phone.
Now bear in mind the husband hasn’t seen her taking to any other guys on her phone, it’s just an assumption based on her actions.
In the morning the husband says to the wife if it’s really what you want then apply for a divorce. The wife does this within the hour online.
They have a mortgaged house together. The wife wants to live together as friends only until the sale of the house and then they go their separate ways. She wants to go live with her mum after the sale until she finds another home. The husband doesn’t like the idea of this and says as he has no family or friends that can put him up that’ll she’ll have to go to her mums now rather than later. He also believes them 2 having space reignite some feelings inside her for him before the house sells.
Their daughter is 2. He works nights, she works days. He has a daughter at the old family home and takes her to work where the wife meets them and then they go to her mums, husband continues on with work. Wife then drops daughter off to old family home on the morning for her to go to work and that’s how it goes. Then weekends are split.
The wife is saying the husband is nasty, heartless, it’s disgusting that he is forcing them now rather than wait until the sale and that he has taken their daughters home from her. The husband says it is her intention to go live with her mum after after the sale of the house so don’t see how moving there now is forcing her out and in fact it is the wifes decision to get rid of the daughters home from her by wanting to end the marriage and sell the house.
The question I have is…. Is the husband wrong to have requested she leave now with their daughter just for the evenings simply because he is still in love with her and doesn’t have anywhere else to go.