Partner denied giving oral

[Leah1988123]

My SO have been together for 8 years and he convinced me for most of these years he had never given oral and it was so new and special with me after finding it very bizarre and continually banging on about it he opened up and said he had.
why would he lie about this? We met when he was 26 and had a serious relationship did he really expect me to believe this.
i just feel misled and now can’t stop questioning other things he may have lied about.
do i leave for my own danity or just accept its his past and irrelevant ?

I think some white lies are told yo bedroom partners.

We're going to tell our sexual partners they are bigger / better / the first we've done something with.

Its not even always intentional. It gets blurted out

Hes not put your health at risk or used this to manipulate you.

Its an inconsequential lie.

I really think leaving him over it would be a bit of a strong reaction!!!!

I wouldn’t leave for this. Maybe he’s done and it before and didn’t like it so that’s why he didn’t say he had. Do you give him oral? I give my partner oral and I don’t particularly enjoy it but I do it to make him feel good.

I don’t particularly enjoy giving oral but will do it unselfishly but not as much as he enjoys doing it to me! He made out it was so new and special doing which I believe made the truth feel worse than it is!

when we spoke about it he did mentioned he didn’t find his sexual grove until meeting me and hadn’t really enjoyed it! So you’re probably right this could be why he denied doing it at all.

I don’t think there’s a person on the planet who never tells little lies sometimes. I’m sure he had his reasons at the time, and I’m sure it’s frustrating for you, but if everything else is ok I’d let it go.

A lot of partners tell these little fibs in the beginning to portray a certain impression of themselves, one they think is attractive to you. It doesn’t make someone a habitual liar.

Huh?

Did I miss something? How do you know he didn’t? Or maybe he didn’t LIKE doing it before?

Is it really worth worrying about?

i'm with you op this is very strange and i would find it odd too, i mean not saying i would end things but it's very strange and i'm surprised so many think it's a normal little white lie! it's an odd thing to lie about makes me wonder what else he's lied about

Some women don't like it so men don't give it.

Just be happy he likes to give it now!

Maybe his previous partner didn’t like his technique and telling you he’d never done it before was a preemptive tactic to excuse his poor performance.

I’d let it go if it’s the only lie, but if he lies about other things then it’s a red flag

when we spoke about it he did mentioned he didn’t find his sexual grove until meeting me

Which just sounds like another thing he thinks you want to hear, to be honest.

Not sure why people discuss their sexual history this way: it's really not constructive and tends to go wrong. Of course you're the best he's ever had, take it as read...

@DustyLee123 there’s been other white lies also it all started back when we met and he over shared played things up to “impress” me played things down to protect me all very immature as you can probably tell from my post he had only been in one serious relationship before me! I’ve shrugged off many white llies about his past because I put it down to immaturity and irrelevant anyway but it has eroded trust and Im now left overthinking the irrelevant stuff tied to his past. Everything in the hear and now is fine no red flags but there’s an element of sexier I feel over his past !

@AlexandrinaH i agree and I think this is the reason I’ve shrugged of quite a few white lies relating to his past and stuff that shouldn’t be discussed! He over shared to “impress” me when we first met then down played things then got in a muddle and this has gone on for years ! Frankly it’s exhausting and has eroded trust but I can’t bring myself to leave based on lies of his time before me for context in the heat and now there are no red flags he is loyal supportive a good dad prioritises us! But feel there is some element of emotional baggage relating to his past that caused him to struggle to be truthful with me

You are overreacting wildly.

@nonbinaryfinery im glad to hear it sometimes our brains get carried away and we do outs elves no favours

you really shouldn't be accepting oral sex from elves. i know it's tempting this time of year, but still.

What’s your head telling you and what is your heart telling you? Xx

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Really? He’s a liar and sound like he just comes out with shit he thinks she wants to hear.

What a weird thing to lie about.