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Am I being sensitive?

11 replies

Yoyo2021 · 26/11/2024 07:25

I caught my partner multiple times watching a movie on the tv whilst we were making out.

I know we were only kissing at this stage but we hadn’t seen each other for nearly a week as I had been really poorly which makes it worse. At the fourth point I had to just point it out and refused to continue on to sex.

On another issue I never wanted to go to the office Christmas do as it is extremely expensive (costing £150.00 each) to the point I expressed I’d rather go away on a weekend together but he persevered for the do.

I asked him this week why he persevered with wanting me to go and he said he thought it was a good idea for me to break the ice with my colleagues and so I have a chance to prove how nice I am!!! There is no issue where I work there are just two women that I am not particularly close to because we have different interests so I found the whole thing a random thing to say. To give you some context I have worked where I have for nearly a decade and my partner is part of the maintenance team for our work place I work at for the past year or so. Having my partner come up with something like this has unsettled me? Why would I have to prove myself to anyone? Why do I have to prove I’m nice? Where has that come from?

On a third issue we watched a movie a few weeks back which had an erotic scene in. He said if it turns him on he will take it out on me 🙄 hmm at this point after the scene he tried it on with me…. I just thought no thanks I’d rather if we had sex it would be because you’re turned on by me….

Lastly, for Xmas he tells me he has bought me a scarf and a hat 🙄 I find that odd as he asked me a while back if I have scarfs and hats and I said yes scarfs but I don’t wear hats. He says I will look very much ‘taken’ and ‘in a relationship’ when wearing it…..

anyway when I have confronted these things and said there all a bit weird things to say I’m told I’m being sensitive….

Am I being sensitive?

OP posts:
healthybychristmas · 26/11/2024 07:49

I don't think you like him much do you? I don't like him either!

category12 · 26/11/2024 07:56

healthybychristmas · 26/11/2024 07:49

I don't think you like him much do you? I don't like him either!

Sums it up nicely.

Fannyfiggs · 26/11/2024 08:04

He says I will look very much ‘taken’ and ‘in a relationship’ when wearing it…..

He said that about a scarf and hat?? An engagement or wedding ring yes, a scarf and hat? Not so much.

Do you think your partner isn't as invested in your relationship as you are?

Bittenonce · 26/11/2024 08:26

Just accept that you're his property - you need to act like it and be grateful for anything you get 😁

CryptoFascist · 26/11/2024 09:13

Doesn't he give you the ick? That hat and scarf thing would put me right off, what a strange thing to say. As well as all the movie related stuff. Chuck this one back, he's naff.

TwistedWonder · 26/11/2024 10:37

Over sensitive is a line out of the gaslight tossers script when you call them out on their twatty behaviour

Yoyo2021 · 26/11/2024 17:54

Thanks all x

getting rid will be easier said than done. We work together 🙄🤷🏻‍♀️

OP posts:
thatsawhopperthatlemon · 26/11/2024 18:00

He wants to take you to the works party because he wants to show everyone that he is the Big Man and you are his property.

Yuk. Dump him now, before you spend any money on Christmas presents.

Calmhappyandhealthy · 26/11/2024 18:02

Yoyo2021 · 26/11/2024 17:54

Thanks all x

getting rid will be easier said than done. We work together 🙄🤷🏻‍♀️

Working with him doesn't stop you dumping him

It'll be a bit awkward for a while after you've dumped him

But dumping him will be easy

sprigatito · 26/11/2024 18:03

No, you're not being over sensitive. Your instincts are there for a reason! He sounds possessive, controlling and rather disgusting.

I would avoid dating work colleagues in general. Never shit where you eat.

TwistedWonder · 26/11/2024 18:05

Yoyo2021 · 26/11/2024 17:54

Thanks all x

getting rid will be easier said than done. We work together 🙄🤷🏻‍♀️

That’s why you don’t dip your pen in the company ink. .

It might be awkward but that’s not an excuse to continue dating a twat.

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