Throughout our relationship I have been told I’m awful at communicating. I have continuously tried to improve that and acknowledge her feelings. We do good for a while and then it gets brought up again that my communication is not good.
Example 1: I had a phone conversation with my mom yesterday, she asked what was that about when I hung up. My answer was, “she wants me to look something up for her”. Guess my answer wasn’t good enough and it seemed like I was “brushing her off”.
Example 2: I made plans to go help a friend with something, she swears I didn’t communicate that but I know I did. Guess it wasn’t that I didn’t tell her about my plans but that I didn’t go into details as to what exactly had happened to my friend.
To me the details are sometimes so irrelevant that I leave them out but she takes that as I’m hiding or keeping stuff from her. I have now booked an appointment with a counselor to work on my communication skills. However that doesn’t take away the feeling that it doesn’t matter what I do, it’s just never enough. It’s never about what I do right but always about my shortcomings. Am I over reacting?