Relationships.

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I only knew my partner for about a month after falling pregnant with my baby girl.
He works nights, and sometimes he works weekends.
When he does get the odd weekend off we do things together, however at some point on Friday Saturday and Sunday he has to disappear to the pubs for a few hours.
Now I don't mind him doing this it's just why every weekend? I just want one weekend where he doesn't disappear and we can be together the whole time.
When I'm alone all week because he's asleep all day then works all night, I would just like the company instead he has to disappear for a couple of hours any weekend he gets off and then once he comes home he's drunk and fall asleep? So that makes it even worse cause even when he's home he's not if that makes sense.
It's really starting to make me feel shit and I don't know if I'm being petty and childish and selfish or I have reason to feel this?
Can anyone tell me if I'm being silly?

I don't personally think you're being silly, but I do think this might be the sort of person he is - I'd personally not be happy with my DH disappearing to the pub three days, getting drunk and coming home to sleep at the weekend - but he's not that sort of person.

I guess you've got to decide with him what works for both of you, is there a compromise of only going one day rather than three? Or every other weekend?

Perhaps he's not quite in the "family weekend time" mindset, but that can't really be a choice when he has a family!

Another depressing post about women having kids to men they barely know, then struggling with them going out drinking. This is really the 5th post I’ve seen like this in the past week.

Anyway, no you are not being petty and childish. Your baby is so young. It’s a shame if he is going every weekend to get drunk and then presumably not having much quality time with you and your child.

This is why I don’t date binge drinkers, they often don’t change even after having kids.

Have you discussed it with him and told him How you feel?

It's almost like an obsession with the pub and what makes it worse for me is that there is a girl who works there who he reportedly sent a dick picture to in the beginning of our relationships, always flirts with the waiters.
And that makes me feel really crappyy my baby is only 6 months she was 6 weeks early when through an extremely crap time I've put loads of weight on and feel insecure.
And I've addressed the fact I don't like him going to pub and he never listens.

He never listens...
Put your ducks in row to raise your kid on your own.

I have discussed it with him but without sounding controlling I sort of back tracked and said if you choose to go the pub then go because I'm not about to stop anyone if you wanted to be in my company and with me and his little girl he just would be I shouldn't have to beg.
But I just don't know if I'm being really silly in letting it upset me that he goes to the pub when he's got a weekend off.

Can you disappear and do things for a few hours ? It sounds like he doesn't really care tbh like you are there or not he isn't invested, would advise leaving while daughter is young and working on coparenting relationship instead

I have two older boys, I was with there dad for 8 years I left him because it got real toxic and we argued all the time.
Although it was toxic there dad was clearly wanting to be around and at home with us I know the difference between someone who is and isn't and I agree he isn't invested but it's hard to hear as I'm so alone.
The best thing me and the boys dad did was break up he's happy with someone else they have a little girl to the same age as mine I wanted nothing my more than to be happy and create a stable home for my children but this guy does not want that family life I had once had with my kids dad.

No, I don't think that you are being 'silly' at all. I think that you are alone all week and crave his company on the weekend. Does he have to go out all 3 days? Is it possible to maybe agree on a night to see his friends and a night doing something nice at home with you - movie or special dinner kind of thing? It's a bit off to go out all 3 days and then sleep away the weekend as this leaves you always on your own. I hope that you can work something out. All the best.🌸