for four years child’s dad has picked and choose when he has child. Due to his shift pattern it’s never consistent and feel I have to agree as and when for child’s sake. Believe me I’ve tried everything to get some sort of consistency. I’m use to it now and try to just get on He now has no where for child to stay so he never does overnights. I work full time and don’t really have any other childcare support. Not that I’m complaining. But when he does have child it is a bit of me time and can sort bits out. Anyway argument pursued today as he was 2hrs late picking her up which impacted my plans for the day. It’s not the first time he has done this. And I was just so frustrated I kinda told him what I thought. That he barely sees child and when he does it’s for a few hours here and there . He doesn’t do any of the hard bits of parenting. He told me that parenting is the mums job and every mum out there does it so why am I complaining. I literally do everything for our child and pay for everything. I don’t know just hit a nerve and upset me that in this day and age someone can have that mentality. Should I just accept this is how it will be. I get upset as child loves dad and is always asking when they will see him next etc so I guess I do push him to see child. Maybe I shouldn’t though I just feel bad for child as some times goes weeks without seeing him. If I don’t sort when he will have child in advance he often will message night before. And then I feel obliged to agree. I don’t know. Maybe I should be thankful he does see child as know things could be worse. It’s just his comment today made me feel like he is obvs quite happy to carry on as is as it suits him and fits into his plans.