Cheating spouse

[Rae2323]

Hi all my spouse cheated on me years ago I and our relationship has never been the same since, whilst they’ve expressed their remorse I’ve never been able to completely forgive them and whilst I was looking for revenge I stupidly kissed someone on a night out years later. I’m 34 and the person I kissed was 23 they have since found out and now every day we are arguing over it and I’m being labelled a peodophile by them because of the age difference. Am I in the wrong? Is the age gap concerning I only kissed them I didn’t take it further despite having the opportunity to I swiftly realised that it wouldn’t fix anything.

Yeah you're in the wrong. You can't "forgive" someone but then use it as licence to cheat yourself.

Why are you still together if neither of you can move on and be decent to each other?

They are stupid and petty to call you a paedophile. Highly immature behaviour

Time to move on.

You've tried to forgive their affair but clearly you've not managed it, he's now trying to make what you did sound worse to clear his conscience. If it's been years and you can't let it go then this relationship is going nowhere. I'm not blaming you Op, you're still angry and hurt and who can blame you? Either both agree to start afresh or end it

You and DH sound perfect for each other.

I suspect it's your DW that cheated first and you cheated second. Not sure why your have concealed the genders in your post but it makes no odds either way.
You both cheated. Just split up, it all sounds dreadful.

Age gap wise I see no problem. Both adults. I'm currently seeing someone 15 years old than me, no issue for either of us.

As for the rest, I agree with everyone else. It may be time to call it quits