Over before it's started?

[Pondering12]

Hi, looking for some advice, I have been speak to a slightly older lady and she sent me this earlier? How do you take this?... I really enjoy talking to you and I loved our kiss but I am worried about the age difference 🥺 I had a relationship with a younger guy and it didn’t work out partly due to his age. I know everyone is different including you, you come across so different and mature but I’m wary. I want to be open and honest with you and I also don’t want to lead you on either x

Not really the help I was looking for 🫣

What ages are you both?

Seems like she's letting you know she wants to go slowly and be cautious. Sounds as if she's just being open and honest.

Why not ask her. If she thinks there's a chance with you, can you genuinely reassure her that that's the case?

32 and 36, I have one child and she has 2. We have both been married in the past

I don't really see that age gap as a problem! I thought you were going to say she's 45 with 2 kids and I'm 23 and live with my mum

That's no age difference at all!
I think just ask outright. Maybe it's an excuse for a gentle knock back, but if you don't ask you won't know.

Its very early on in getting to know eachother

This was my response..I appreciate you telling me this and opening up about things in the past and I understand where you are coming from. To be honest, I really loved meeting you and chatting to you last weekend, the kiss was great as well ☺️. I didn't have the intention of going out last weekend to find someone or get with someone because I didn't know if it was too early to start moving on. I have really enjoyed talking to you this past week, as you said I think it really helps speaking to people in a similar situation. Even just a little message from you seemed each day, seemed to make my day that little bit easier and brighter. I appreciate it's early and we are only getting to know eachother and this may lead to nothing more than strangers meeting and sharing stories and advice, but I do understand and respect your cautions. I would like to get to know you more but completely understand if it's not the right circumstances or if certain things needed to be different for anything to potentially evolve x

All seems a bit dramatic after meeting last weekend and one kiss! Think you both need to chill out.

And 32 and 36 is a very very normal age gap in a relationship! She is not a slightly older lady. You are both in your 30s, 4 years apart 😂

Your very right!

That's a very small age gap. Following on from your message if she wants to continue just see where it leads. It's very early days yet and you don't know how compatible you might be on other things apart from age!

A slightly older lady.

32/36 isn't what I was expecting 😂

that's barely an age gap, you're hardly going to run off with a younger woman because she's 4 years older than you. She's either had a bump to the head or is fobbing you off.

if you want to keep seeing her, just say 'ok, let's just see how it goes, take it slowly'

or do the sensible thing & get out now.