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Am i doing something wrong

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Workingmum89 · 22/11/2024 23:19

My husband loses his temper with me all of the time. This time it's because he wants to change his job again- this will be the third time in the past year. I have a successful job but it is time consuming as in I am out of the house most of the day but make it back for bath time and bedtime with my children. This is constantly thrown in my face that I am never there. Also I have the added pressure of doing well at work to keep my job so my husband can leave yet another job without one to go to. We have a credit card bill yet he still wants to do something else as he isn't completely happy with his current job despite it allowing him to work at home and be there for our children a bit more. He has lost his temper during a discussion about him changing jobs because I am not being helpful and has then gone on to say I don't care about our family and that I don't do anything beneficial other than go to work every day and earn a wage. A wage that has supported our family for years whilst he keeps changing jobs. How much more can I put up with? He is vicious with his words and says the most awful things, points at me, swears at me and demands I listen to him. I'm crying again because we have argued and he doesn't seem bothered. He just says I making him out to be a bullying man as usual. What do I do, how do I get through this? I have to think of our children when all I want to do is take them and leave. Should I be doing more in the house? Should I be being more helpful about him changing jobs again? Should I go to work later and risk my job? Should I rush home every day just so he doesn't get angry? Do I stay quiet about him changing jobs again? I just don't know what to do but I know the whole weekend d is ruined now because he has turned an innocent comment into an argument full of swearing and calling me thick.

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severyyhv · 24/11/2024 05:43

You need to make a plan to leave. This will never change. Your children are experiencing this too. Better to role model that these behaviours are unacceptable.

Don't tell him you plan to leave , just make a plan and go. Then discuss custody, maintenance etc after you are safe

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