He is getting me down

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One of my partner’s ex work colleagues joined a social activity group we went to and was struggling socially.

He has become a nuisance. My partner keeps his distance because he knows you can’t get rid of him if you engage with him. The last few months this guy has messaged me about ‘ASB’ next to his property. He bought a house next to a social club! This was in December 2019 then lockdown happened and it was quiet. A few months ago a new landlord took over and the alleged problems started.

He claims he is being harassed as people park on the side of the social club car park next to his house which they are able to do. The police are involved, social services, support services, mental health, GP and an MP. I have even seen the CCTV footage and he says he is being harassed but every video you see no one is doing anything. Apparently the place is a drug den which people stop to collect the drugs at the car park then move on. The police don’t want to know.

I think this guy is mentally unwell. He is getting counselling, he is in his 40s and has Asperger’s and is unemployed. I don’t get why his parents never warned him about buying a house next to a social club. He moved back in with his parents yet he still says he is being harassed. I have told him to sell his house but he claims he can’t until May when his parents money matures even though he claims he owns the house with no mortgage 🤔 He can’t be that desperate to get rid of the place.

I think he is bored because he doesn’t work and will suck anybody in just so he has company. He met one of my friends recently and said she is ignoring him, she isn’t she does reply but is a full time carer for her dad. Last night I said I have my own problems and don’t need to hear this negativity for 6 months. I just feel I can’t get anything done after I have been at my full time job. I rarely talk about my problems and when I do he just turns it back round to his. My partner message him last night to back off as I have a lot going on. He treats me like a free counsellor. I have had enough of it.

Just block his number? Or at the very least stop reply. It's perfectly fine to ignore someone you aren't close to and you don't want to communicate with.

Block him.
I mean it.
Why on earth would you engage with him.

As PPs have said, block him. You don't need to be involved surely? If he's a nuisance in person then don't engage in person either.

Thanks for all your advice. I am done with this attention seeker. Time to focus on me.

I just had a go at him for contacting me again after I specifically told him not to talk about this ‘anti social behaviour’ and told him he is wasting police time. He is deluded and said he is being abused and he is done speaking to me. I had to tell him straight. These nutters don’t change or see the errors of their ways. I feel relieved.