Hello,
Ive been in a relationship with a lovely, supportive man for five months. He’s attentive and interested and there for me in a way I’ve never had before.
BUT I can’t stop worrying that he’s going off me or doesn’t love me any more. I think this is down to the natural attrition of settling into each other - we see each other all the time so don’t text as much, for example. Something clicked in me recently and I can’t stop worrying that he’s going off me. I know this sounds insane as I can’t tangibly say why I feel like this aside from clearly being anxiously attached.
he hates me asking if he’s still into me etc - he says it’s like a punch to the gut. We had a small argument recently and it spun me out and I had to work really hard not to keep asking.
i know that if i keep doing it ill push him away and i know the things im worried about aren’t rational. Does anyone have any tips on how to self soothe?
I struggle with ocd and health anxiety (which are conditions with similar patterns of needing to act / needing reassurance) and managed to get them under control by breaking the cycle of obsessively googling etc.
TIA!