Pregnant and sad.

[DEKitty]

I am estranged by mutual agreement with 2 close family members.
i know the situation cannot be resolved and we both see it in different ways and are all very hurt.

the thing is, I am nearly 6months pregnant. It’s been a hard pregnancy that’s also very high risk. I am feeling lonely and vulnerable and probably nostalgic thinking about before all this happened, and rightly or wrongly, I want them back.
one of them might agree, the other is likely a hard no.

should I even bother trying? Or am I just setting myself up for more heartache?
I am also not sure now is even right time to do this due to stress on my pregnancy if it all goes wrong.

i have never been one to hold hatred or grudges, despite this I cannot just bow down to their view on the situation or apologise when I don’t feel I was in the wrong. They hurt me so bad and it took over a year of therapy and medication before I even started to feel a bit better again.

i just wish magic wands existed and we could all go back in time. But they don’t, so what should I do. I am struggling everyday with my happiness over this.

@DEKitty Sorry you are feeling so bad. Are these parents or siblings- or is it the father of the baby you are feeling nostalgic about?

Sounds serious if you needed therapy and meds.

Sadly there aren't magic wands- would be wonderful if we could go back in time and fix stuff.

Often discussion and communication can help- but that takes emotional intelligence on everyone's part.

I think if nothing has changed in either of your views over what caused the fall out in the first place and you needed therapy and medication to get through that fall out, I wouldn’t bother with it personally. If nothing has changed then it is likely to do nothing more than re-open old wounds, you’ve said you still feel the same way you did then and can’t go back on it so in that case it would really just be re-starting an old argument, except this time you’re 6 months pregnant, high risk already, and the stress which sent you to therapy/medication last time could very well send you and your unborn child to hospital this time.

Pregnancy, especially a high risk one, isn’t a time to create stressful situations for yourself. If you’re not willing to apologise then I honestly think it’s not a conversation worth having.