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Has anyone met a close blood-relative as an adult?

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RockyFowlboa · 22/11/2024 02:50

Who was it, and how did it go for you?

My mother left my biological dad when I was ~1 year old and took me home with her when she got discharged from the Navy. I didn't get in contact with him until I was 20, after I had accidentally encountered my older half brother online, and finally decided to ask my mum about him. They said they assumed I wanted no contact all these years...Now, my bio dad and I only exchange a few pictures and relatively meaningless words, given the circumstances, on the holidays. (He says "I love you" a lot, but like... we haven't really met so I don't know how he can say that? and I certainly don't feel comfortable saying it back. It's just awkward.)

Recently I took an Ancestry.com DNA test, and the site matched me with my paternal grandmother. I feel a lot more comfortable talking with her. She is encouraging me to come visit her and my father, all the way across the country. I kind of want to go, as she is battling cancer, and I'm worrying my window of opportunity to meet her is closing... It's just a long way and it'll be very expensive to go, and I have a lot of anxiety about this.

So I'm curious to hear about others' experiences with meeting long-lost relatives.

OP posts:
TwinklyNight · 22/11/2024 04:24

I have, I was really nervous but also really wanted to meet blood relatives from my paternal side. It was good. Bring somebody along for moral support. Good luck!

TwinklyNight · 22/11/2024 04:26

I have, I was really nervous but also really wanted to meet blood relatives from my paternal side. It was good. Flew from Nova Scotia to British Columbia to meet a first cousin. Bring somebody along for moral support. Good luck!

cherrylips · 22/11/2024 04:43

Yes, I met my father at the age of 52! It’s lovely! And I met all my siblings as well which is equally as great. My kids enjoy their new found cousins and my new found sister in laws and brother in laws etc. it is v nerve wracking but totally worth it to be welcomed , supported and loved. The sense of belonging is unreal ❤️

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