Confrontation

[onedayatatime27]

My partner and I had a disagreement, I have an infection and I am feeling very mentally unwell at the moment. I don't feel loved or cared for. We had an argument and I raised my voice, I don't usually do this. My partner picked up dirty water from the sink and threw it into my face. I pushed his shoulder and said “Don't do that to me!” he grabbed my arm and pushed me into the oven, and he said in an aggressive tone “Do that again” At this point, I just walked off. I know I'm in the wrong as I started the confrontation but I felt like he was going to hit me.

After he calmed down he said, you know I would never hit you, do you want a takeaway? Let's forget it. Do you forgive me? If I wanted to hit you I would have done it straight away.

I don't know what to think of this, I am so emotionally drained at the moment.

Please leave

"you know I would never hit you but I would degrade you by putting you in the owen and throw dirty water on you. But would not hit you, today.

Run.

He is loud and clear with his warning, and it was a warning.

What would you advise your daughter, friend, mum, co worker if they told you the things you just wrote?

My ex did exactly what yours is doing now. And it escalated.

There will be so many MN here who will say it will never improve.

Ones a man decides to show this side, there is no going back, they know what to say to keep you, and what to say to reel you in should you decide to stay.

This man is from now on showing you he is no longer safe.

These things escalate. Dirty water today, boiling water another time. I say leave.

Love, he already assaulted you physically, twice.

Men who feel the need to say 'I would never hit you', WILL hit you.

You have instincts for a reason. If you feel like someone is thinking about hitting you, they are.

Get out of there.

The only point in a partner is to make life happier. Not only is he not doing that,he's doing the literal opposite. And he's unsafe too.

Get out of this relationship.