My partner (F42) and I (F29) have been together for a few years now. Her kids are now grown and have moved out so I have become the focus of her life. I know I should feel great about, she loves me very much and I love her. But, instead I feel so much pressure to make her happy. We have had issues because she wants my constant attention. It started with my family, making comments about how often I see them or talk to them. To the point that I have tried to cut time with them. I no longer hangout with my friends alone because she always tags along. I have nothing to hide but I want to be able to spend time away from each other sometimes. The other day we had some errand to run with my mom, she decided to stay thinking I would be back soon. It turn into a couple hours thing and when I got back she was very upset that I had left her alone for HOURS. She then made a comment about her hoping I was happy because she dedicates her life to make me happy. Well I’m not, I feel asphyxiated by her sometimes. I personally don’t think it’s healthy that I am all she has or cares to have. She always wants me to come when she hangs out with her friends but I refuse not because I don’t like them but because I want her to get the hit that is ok for us to have friends and hangout with them without taking each other every time. I want her to have a life outside of our relationship but I am afraid to tell her she needs to find a hobby or something because I know it will hurt her feelings. I have insinuated couples therapy or is going to therapy separately. I’m sure we both can benefit from it but mostly her. Am I wrong for feel this way?