Could venting about the person I’ve been on dates with have got back to then?

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Title should say got back to them not then.
Sorry if this isn’t the appropriate place to post but I was sat on a train venting to my friend about someone I’ve been on a few dates with that seemed to be ghosting me after not responding to my previous messages. The next night I then heard back from the person in question with an apology but they’ve gone quiet again for a few days now since I replied. I’ve now got awful paranoia that someone on the train could have overheard what I was saying and told the person I was talking about. Is there much chance of a stranger also knowing this person and recognising me from a profile picture they may have shown them or am I just getting anxious and paranoid and trying to rationalise the drop off in communication again?

I think ghosting it's relatively normal in dating these days as there is so many options, I was single for 9 years and never got past date 3. Often ghosted!

It's horrible. It's not hard to said a polite text declining further dates/contact

If you're venting about him though, he's not worth it surely?

Unlikely - if they had I'd guess they wouldn't have contacted at all - more likely life got ahead of them and they were just reaching out.

Could it have happened? Yes. Is it likely? Probably not. But it also doesn’t really matter so try not to waste time worrying about it.

I very much doubt it. So what if it has anyway. You have done nothing wrong.

Coincidence I think.

Why would he need someone else to tell him to stop ghosting you anyway?

If he likes you he won't do that.

MessyNeate Yeah it wouldn’t be the first time I’ve been ghosted. It does seem to be part and parcel of online dating unfortunately.
That’s exactly how I feel as well. I always tell people if I’m not feeling things.
Yeah that’s true if I was being treated how I’d like to then I wouldn’t have been venting in the first place.

Ghosting happens all too frequently, it's the coward's way out. I would rather be told there was no mileage in the relationship than someone just disappearing on me.
I wouldn't worry about this man and your conversation about him on a train. Even if it did get back to him, does it make him any less of a twat?

Yeah it crossed my mind that someone would have likely told them sooner rather than later.

I was quite colourful at points with what I was saying ngl but I had been ghosted so yeah that remains the same.

Most probably coincidence but if not maybe the person themself overheard on the train but didn't want to approach you rather than someone else making the connection (unless you're part of the same circle).

Yeah it’s so spinelessly unnecessary to just say you’re not interested. Absolutely. Same for me. There’s no dispute which is the more hurtful of the two. No you’re right that certainly doesn’t change that.

I agree it costs nothing to say 'it was lovely meeting you but I felt more of a friendly vibe,' or however you want to phrase it. Let people know where they stand.

Yeah it’s being left in limbo that’s the worst and I don’t buy that not responding is a response either. There’s just no need for it. Or say something then block at least if they can’t take looking at your response.

Okay thanks I’ll try not to worry.

Yeah it’s true that if someone cared then they wouldn’t ghost.

No the person in question I was talking about was definitely not in the area of the train I was sitting in.

You're massively overthinking (I do this too)
But
even if by some huge coincidence it did get back to them, who cares, they're not good enough for you anyway .

Well if whatever you were saying was bad enough for someone to ghost you, if it somehow got translated to your date, then perhaps not vent in a public place. And perhaps he deserves someone who is open and up front in general.

But personally I doubt that whatever you were saying got back to your date.

I think that ghosting is normal now and a form of communication, and in all honestly if he so willingly does this to you ones, and then twice, then perhaps dont allow him to do that to you. There are other people out there who will treat you better.

Behaviour is a language, if he is not in contact for days on end, he has other dates and you are not a priority until he needs his ego brushing.

Yeah I’m terrible for overthinking. Thanks for saying that. Ghosting shows what kind of person someone is and that’s not a match for who I am.

Yeah I’m not going to discuss personal matters in public spaces anymore after this. It’s not worth the paranoia for me.
Yeah I’ve experienced before that if someone is the type of person to ghost once then they’ll continue to do it again in time. I think it’s easy to get trapped in a ghosting cycle as well after someone throws you a bone so you convince yourself that things might be different until it then happens again. It’s true that I don’t want to be treated this way and it feels demeaning having to chase someone and like you’re trying to force something that they don’t feel.
Yeah I definitely feel like there is someone else/s involved who is now occupying their time instead of me.