Getting accused of cheating

[Penny45duke]

If your husband ever accused you of cheating on him every other day and you have been married for 30years and you have not cheated on him would you leave him

Yes.

because who needs that sort of abuse?

Has he cheated? Is he projecting?

Yes. It’s a form of control and to keep you constantly begging and boosting his ego.

Yes. Especially as these accusations are usually projection because they are cheating or it’s an abusive control tactic. You’ll be much happier away from him

I’d have left about 28 years ago.

.yes I couldn't be bothered with that day in day out, why does he do it, does he accept its not normal behaviour and is willing to address it, leaving him will reinforce in his head that you are cheating but you need to put yourself first. Are you safe to leave him.

Yes. Been there done that. Thankfully got far, far away from him before I married him. Never looked back.
You don't need or want this sort of abuse in your life.

I've been with an insecure man and all the reassurance and changes in behaviour in the world are never enough. You can't prove a negative - how do you prove something you're not doing? Leave him. I did and who I'm with now, if he started it, I'd tell him to do one.

Has he been like this the whole time?
If it's recent he's probably projecting and it's him that's doing the cheating .

Not the whole time we have been in for 30 years and he started it 6months ago

Yep.

Guess who was the one cheating? Hint, it wasn’t me.

He's projecting.

He started it back in June when I went food shopping and was a little longer getting home I took our youngest son with me because the older children wanted to stay at home with him I left the house to go food shopping at 1 PM and got home at 6PM and normal I would have been back at 4 pm

Is that it, 2 hours over on a boring food shop. Are you allowed to go out on your own, meet your family and friends, go to work or does he accuse you of all sorts then too.

After that if I was to go and see my family and friends on my own I would get accused

How many more threads are you going to start? Seriously OP we all gave you advice last night. This has to stop

Zekezeke go away

Its not up to us to monitor your threads but you have started a lot, have you spoken to anyone in real life about your ex and your marriage, it might help.

So he HAS been cheating on you? Your marriage is a sham, if this is even real.

He is having an affair. 100%. Its The Script. He accuses you of what he is doing in order to give him justification for his affair.

If I go shopping with my mum on my own or with my friends I will get accused of cheating on him and I am 57 years old

Hi there Penny45duke,
From this point onwards we suggest that you stick to responding on one of the threads that you have started in order to build up a profile that your fellow MNers can trust? This scattergun approach to posting is not working in your favour. We would also advise against starting any more if you are looking for support at a difficult time.
Best,
Hope
MNHQ

This is the one

Op you never listen to advise so what is it that YOU want?

Yup I'd leave a relationship that I wasn't trusted in.

It's controlling. And likely projection as he's a cheat