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Hubby's work

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PeppyZebra · 19/11/2024 23:13

My OH is self employed. I work part time. Kids growm up with their own lives and jobs. My hubby however works really long hrs in a physical job. I have asked him to try and slow down a bit. Give himself an extra day to get jobs done so he is not coming home late. He is exhausted all the time. We have no special time together really and although I have suggested prioritising special time he doesn't really believe in that kind of thing. We have a fairly comfortable lifestyle and my thoughts are that if he wasn't working do hard we would be able to enjoy weekends together. Lately however things have been difficult. He has been out to watch the rugby over the last 3 weekends and we gave ended up arguing all 3 weekends. Although not falling over drunk he is pretty pissed and some tines says mean things. Next day he can't remember and expects everything to be fine. I feel resentful that I can't enjoy times with him. I called him to see him recently whole the rugby was on while walking my dog. I didn't bother him. Had a coke and went home but he was furious that me and our daughter had called in. He doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong but I can feel it in the pit of my stomach. I cook clean wash his clothes etc and am fine with this but need him to prioritise me so much more but he just doesn't seem willing. How can I get through to him. Am at my wits end.

OP posts:
DustyLee123 · 20/11/2024 06:42

But he’s not going to change, so you accept it and live your own life within this relationship, or you move on to happiness.

Mygrandkidsaregreat · 13/05/2025 19:13

dustyLee123 is spot on.
Do your own things.

Doggielovecharlotte · 13/05/2025 19:15

He is avoiding the relationship by overworking and then going out at weekend

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