Abusive

[Pennyduke564]

Is it me or is it abusive behaviour if your husband throws your handbag at you during an argument

That is abusive.

Not necessarily. Context needed.

As it says

If it's a one off moment of frustration then I wouldn't call it abusive...if it's part of a pattern of behaviour that makes you feel threatened, undermined or makes you moderate your own behaviour then I would call that abusive.

No it's not a one off

What happened ? Kids present ? Was it fully launched at you ?

A ‘one off moment of frustration’ can still be abuse. The fact OPs husband threw her bag at her on purpose, during an argument - is abusive.

There does not need to be a pattern. Often these ‘one off moments of frustration’ become a pattern of abuse, though.

Its concerning anyone is saying otherwise.

Beastiesandthebeauty yes it was fully launched at me and yes kids were there

It is abuse but the reason I ask is you left yesterday yes ? School will most likely become aware of the separation and be doing emotional check ins with the kids.I would somehow document it with someone official.Many Men get nasty when you leave so please cover your back in anyway you can.Even the stuff he was saying is abuse and involving the kids too ( and I know it sounds ridiculous that you have to cover your back but sometimes it is like this.

My husband throw my handbag at me during the argument yesterday before I left our youngest son came with me to my mum's and stepdads yesterday and the older children decided to stay with him and told me that they would be happy if they never saw me again

That sounds really upsetting OP. I hope you’re okay.

I was crying when I left the martial house with our youngest son

You're going to feel all the emotions and that's okay 🥰 Just do your best for you and youngest and try keep communication open with the elder ones

The older children don't want anything to do with me I tried to phone them tonight but they hang up on me

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Was the lettuce okay?