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Am I overthinking

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Bluejeansrose78 · 18/11/2024 20:22

I recently hooked up with a friend, after a few months of back and forth flirting and sexual tensions vibes, but The whole thing ended up being a bit meh and felt a bit rushed.
I went round his, after he told me to come round for a few drinks and when I got there he said that his room mate was going to be back soon. I did get in my head a bit/anxious with the thought that his flatmate was coming back soon and from then on he just seemed to rush through it all really quickly
. It just seemed like he wanted to get it over with and get me out of there.

I think because I was so preoccupied with this and in my thoughts during it, that I wasn’t really present during the sex and didn't finish where as he did and didn't seem notice or care that I hadn’t been enjoying it or hadn't finished as well. ( rough estimate I think the whole thing lasted about 10mins if that, including foreplay, but even that was rushed).
I definitely am not that good of an actress to fake it that well, but after it just became so clear that he had got what he wanted and just wanted me out. I then got kicked out pretty much right after.

I am now thinking that if wasn't that good for me it likely wasn't good for him either and thats why it was really rushed and he kicked me out after. I was just wondering if faking it is something guys do

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WhereIsMyLight · 18/11/2024 20:29

It was fine for him. He wanted sex from you and he got that. There’s no point dwelling on it and if you couldn’t been more into it, maybe he wouldn’t have kicked you out. You’ve already given him more mental time than he deserved. Sadly, he’s used you for sex so stop worrying about whether he enjoyed it or not.

GloiraSmellons · 18/11/2024 20:31

No its not usual. Couldnt you tell by the lack of jizz?

Bluejeansrose78 · 18/11/2024 20:35

GloiraSmellons · 18/11/2024 20:31

No its not usual. Couldnt you tell by the lack of jizz?

We were mainly doing doggy and when he ‘finished’ this was the position we were in and I can't remember seeing him get rid of the condom, as I was a bit flustered and so wasn't paying much attention

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