Feeling so stuck

[Beautifulfoool]

I'm feeling so stuck and paralysed. I know I am in the wrong relationship but feel really attached to him and struggling to leave as we have been together almost 10 years. He doesn't want kids, I've been on the fence but the more I see my friends having babies it's making me think that's what I want and that I'd have a lot of love to give. I'm just feeling really unhappy in my relationship, unmet needs and feeling unappreciated, I've started drinking too much and generally just feel miserable. He's also been emotionally abusive in the past. I need to get out of this rut and realise what's ahead of me long term if I stay. Just want some advice on how to get myself unstuck? Been going to counselling but my "homework" is to figure out what I need from her to help me leave and I'm stumped 😕

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Run for the hills and find someone who actually cares for u.

It sounds so simple but you need to leave your relationship and get your own place. Keep going to your counselling. In terms of how she can help you, I’d suggest helping you to a) learn how to assert yourself, b) learn how to set and maintain healthy boundaries and c) how to build your self esteem.

Deep down you know what you want. You want to be with someone who loves and respects you and who wants to have a family. Someone who sees you as an equal partner, appreciates you and wants to build a future with you. You’re just scared to actually take the steps to leaving and starting out on your own. Hopefully, therapy will help you build the confidence to take those initial steps.