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I’m going on a date!

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MessyNDepressy · 16/11/2024 11:12

I have a first date today 😬. We matched on Hinge last Sunday and have been chatting everyday since. I haven’t been on a proper date for a long time so I’m quite nervous! I think we are going to mini golf and bowling. He has arranged it all which is nice. Part of me doesn’t actually want to go and would rather stay at home alone with my dog but I’m trying to force myself out my comfort zone 🫣.

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Pinkbonbon · 18/11/2024 20:30

Totally agree. Makes me uncomfortable when men suggest anything that can't be cut short quick as a first date tbh. I assume either they never date so don't know it's not wise or, they're a love bomber or for some reason, don't want me to be able to end the date fast if it isn't working out.

TwistedWonder · 18/11/2024 20:34

IAm16StoneHalloween2024 · 18/11/2024 20:22

I know there’s a lot of pushback on these kind of dates but I wouldn’t dream of doing anything else. They’re perfect. Can be finished in 30 minutes or can be extended to overnight.

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Agree. I only ever do coffee or a quick drink as a first date then it can be cut short after that one drink or it can go on longer if it goes well.

Being stuck on an activity date or out to dinner with a man when you just want to escape is a nightmare.

And OP I’ve had the height thing before and it’s an immediate no for me. Its the lie that’s the deal breaker imo

TwentyBillion · 18/11/2024 20:37

Yeah I think if you're more inexperienced with OLD you think it's great to meet someone for a meal or go bowling.

Then you realise as this poster did... NOPE!! You're stuck with them for a whole meal or bowling or whatever!

I don't know anyone who is OLD in RL that doesn't meet for quick coffee or drink first.

Obviously on here with the posters who are married and haven't been on the dating scene for years, it seems unromantic and weird. Sadly they mostly give unrealistic or unsafe advice.

I knew as soon as I read the opening post that this wasn't going to end well.

Onwards and upwards OP! Wait until you do find someone you fancy and have to have the "shall we be exclusive talk". 🤢

TwistedWonder · 18/11/2024 20:46

Angela59 · 17/11/2024 03:32

Not quiet sure how height liars ever think their going to get away with it 🤔

I had one argue that I must be taller than I claimed to be rather than admit he’d lied about his height

PoliteEagle · 18/11/2024 22:30

I dunno but at least if you have activity date you still have fun even if you don't want to see them again. Coffee dates are dull though quick and efficient. My friend married a guy from TInder and their first date was a dinner at Japanese restaurant. I guess everyone knows what work better for them. I wouldn't want to meet someone who goes into a date with a mentality that they can run away quickly in case I am horrible. It is like setting up for a failure. But I also don't multidate, so I guess I am old fashioned even if relatively young :). Anyway whatever works for people. I agree though that mini golf and bowling does sound like an overkill. At least his pics weren't 10 years old.

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