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His ex

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tammy98 · 15/11/2024 11:44

Hi everyone, first time here. I've been with my partner for over 20 years, no kids and we haven't had sex for a few years. I've always been faithful and he hasn't. In February I was looking through his phone and saw all these messages from his first love (they were engaged and it was serious). She sent photos from when he took photos of her back then semi naked (and she was stunning) and they had been calling each other every day and him saying I can't speak I'm with a friend (me!). I messaged her and i wasn't polite, as I was so shocked. Then she blocked me. I confronted him but he said she's an ex. This was nearly 9 months ago and I can't move on. They'd been texting since January. Am I driving myself mad and it's nothing? What drove me mad was the fact she blocked me. Surely if she had something to hide she would tell me? I just keep going over it in my mind.

Thank you in advance ☺

OP posts:
Anothernamechane · 15/11/2024 15:54

You need to get a job and move out. Bluntly you are not in a relationship with this man, he's your roommate who finances you but there's no love there.

TheCatterall · 16/11/2024 03:29

@tammy98 volunteer, get out the house. Get some interests. Make some connections. Build a life outside the house. Make a plan. Check out benefits and support you’d be entitled to. Do something.

you called her a tart etc when she might not have even known about you so it’s no wonder she blocked you.

DreamTheMoors · 16/11/2024 04:26

Why doesn’t he just walk out on you?
Have you considered the possibility of him leaving and you being abandoned, all alone, in your 60s, without a home, without an income, without anything?
Girl.

Wednesdaysdrag · 16/11/2024 04:57

tammy98 · 15/11/2024 14:53

I'm unemployed and just want a roof over my head. Plus I've got low self esteem and always have had

Why are you wasting your life?

Is it his house? Do you rent? Is it in joint names?

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