Hi I should explain that I have OCD and that’s the reason I’ve started the same discussion twice now, so apologies. I hope I don’t get banned. My name is Neima, I’m a 34-year-old man and I’m new to Mumsnet. I’ve never had a girlfriend, I’ve never been on a date, and I’ve never had sex. I did kiss a girl when I was younger. Girls have always found me attractive, I’ve always been told I have nice eyes and I’ve been told nice things about my appearance. A female classmate at school and a female schoolfriend even asked me out. A gay man was also attracted to me earlier this year. The problem with me is I can be quiet and am kind of awkward and shy. I get a haircut every 3 or 4 weeks and I get my beard done regularly and I try to dress better.
I am socialising more, I recently had dinner with the man who lives in the flat above the flat I used to live in, I went to a Meetup thing recently and am going to another on Saturday. I met someone who told me about a service at a church next to Hammersmith broadway and even though I’m not religious in the slightest, I went along because I wanted to meet new people. I am in contact with a few people on Facebook and one person on LinkedIn.
Despite all of this I feel lonely. I’ve cried loads of times over the past three months, and I’ve lost weight due to the stress.
I really love children, and I’m meeting someone who is helping me find a job. I would like to work in a primary school, as a teaching assistant, teaching art, or in a nursery. I studied art at college, and I enjoyed drawing when I was younger.
Any advice would be appreciated