I was married for 18 years. My ex wife cheated. 2 years after my divorce I met a wonderful lady. We have great chemistry. Always laughing.
As soon as I started dating my girlfriend my ex wife was not very nice. Caused a lot of issues. I didn’t know how to handle a ex wife and have a new girlfriend.
One year into my new relationship ( been dating 3.5 years now) my ex called me while I was with my girlfriend and her adult kids. I decided not to answer. It caused a huge fight with my girlfriend. She thought I was hiding something because I would not talk to my ex at that time. I was focusing on my girlfriend and her kids.
I would have my ex wife on DND on my phone. Again my girlfriend would think I was hiding stuff.
Last month my ex wife had text me some rude/bossy text messages. My ex wife has never been inappropriate sexually with me for over 6.5 years. Only texting about the kids. I had deleted a few of the text threads but not the entire text. My girlfriend noticed my Apple Watch texts from my Ex wife had messages my phone did not. Again my GF thinks I am emotionally cheating my with ex wife. We had a huge argument about it. My GF shared our text argument with her adult daughter. Now my GF kids think I have something for my ex wife now as well.
I am beyond frustrated. I am being labeled as emotionally cheating with my ex wife because I deleted some texts. The constant accusations are ruing things for me. I tell my GF if she does not believe my contact my ex wife. But she won’t.
I have always deleted text messages. So it’s normal for me to delete daily. My GF sees that as a sign of hiding something.
I feel like my GF needs to back off about my EX. There is nothing going on so what does it matter if I keep text messsges or not?
I never hang out with my ex wife. My three boys know I have nothing going on with their mom. My family know the same. But my GF now has me labeled as a cheater and a liar based off deleting texts. Not answering calls in the past from my ex wife. And keeping her on DND.
I try and explain to my GF that deleting the texts could throw a red flag. But I have nothing going on with my EX.
I told my GF if she is going to keep accusing me we need to break it off. But she doesn’t want that. I tell my GF if you can’t or won’t trust me it’s OVER..!!! Because I can’t keep being accused of things I am not doing.
Thoughts?