Manifesting love/ partner ?

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I have been reading and using manifestation principles whereby I am focusing on gratitude, intention, feeling and raising my own
Vibrations through positive energy and behaviours in order to attract my life partner at the ripe old age of 51.
I have done the therapy and counselling
After an emotionally unavailable and disconnected marriage.
We were simply incompatible but the trauma of his affairs and fall out for the kids led me to do massive work on myself over the last few years.
I am doing my best to be the person I want to meet if that makes sense !
Have any of you had success in this area please ?
Anyone?

OP, my advice would be to do things that make you happy rather than focusing on meeting someone. It’s more likely to happen if you’re radiating contentment and independence. What do you like? Gardening? Theatre? Join some clubs and meet new people. FWIW I don’t believe in ‘manifestation’ as a woo thing but you can definitely be more likely to attract certain things if you have a certain mindset.

I feel kind of embarrassed saying this as I am not very "woo" in general, but yes I did do this! I stumbled across Gabby Bernstein's manifesting challenge and did it towards the beginning of 2023 (around the time of my divorce being finalised). Basically a task/challenge every day for a month involving writing down and focusing on goals, meditating and listening to mantras, that sort of thing. I was pretty focused on meeting someone as my marriage had been dead for years in my eyes so it didn't feel too quick to move on.

Anyway, obviously meeting my partner could well have been coincidence (!) but it did feel like I had kind of brought him into being. Even writing that I'm aware it looks ridiculous! But I definitely had a focused mindset and a sense of connection to a wider plan in those few months that felt different to anything I had experienced before. Unfortunately I haven't really been able to sustain it to focus on other goals in my life! - but may well try again in the new year.

I did this and was successful in meeting the kind of person I had visualised… think profession, looks, hobbies, location…

The only problem? This person was also selfish, low empathy, and it turns out - not very bright in some key areas. The not being a very nice person in general was very hurtful and frustrating,

I would concentrate on being kind to yourself and looking for kindness in others. The rest is all very shallow window dressing and doesn’t keep your heart warm at night.

Just no. What proof is there of 'raising your vibrations' ?? You cannot 'manifest' anything, you aren't a God. Honestly there are people making a mint out of books and videos on this subject, and it's all nonsense. I am a Christian though, so take a dim view of this type of idea and prefer to make my requests to God.

No one has success like that.

It's bollocks.

I dunno, it feels like new age snake oil to me when put like that.

I would say you usually meet that special person by chance and it grows organically. However if your determined to meet a man you could try online dating and the likes?

I suppose it can help by keeping you in a positive mind frame, focusing of the kind of man you want but it's down to you to choose well, if won't turn up unless you are proactive about it.

Thanks.
I am very specific about what I want and it's really about values and integrity and kindness along with the importance of compatibility, chemistry and communication. I have taken up a few classes in the evenings, say yes to all invites, am improving my diet and fitness and generally feeling more energised and upbeat so I'm hoping that the increase in the value that I'm
Placing on myself and the significant rise in my ability to see my worth will perhaps increase my chances of meeting a man of similar values. My boundaries are very tight as I've been untrue and unkind to myself for years in order to keep up appearances and keep my family together all the while being married to a useless , selfish man child.