So, am I just being stupid.........

[greeneyedgirl]

.....To be annoyed/worried about this? Spent Sat night and today with new DP, last night fine, all's well. But today I was hardly spoken to, sat watching TV all day whilst he is pretty much silent and then texting someone for an hour or so. No hand holding or even the odd peck all day. I must admit I was feeling rather unsure and unwanted, as I felt he just didn't want me there at all, so I left earlier than I intended. He asked if anything was was wrong and I just said no I had to go, pick up dd from her Dad's etc.

My last relationship was pretty crap as the guy couldn't decide what he wanted and went alternately hot and cold and I really don't want to go through this again, as it really hammered my self esteem. Before today the relationship has been mostly fine (although a few niggles have started in my mind, but I just put that down to being oversensitive, although now I am wondering!), but I just feel that maybe I deserve a bit more effort, or am I being unreasonable?

he has asked you to 'stay' next sunday? not do something in the day or go out in the evening? he said 'stay.'??? sounds like he just wants someone to sleep with.

LW, thank so much, but I have decided if this one goes belly-up, I can't be doing with men anymore. Have just had a conversation with my sister and we have come to the conclusion that maybe because I am willing to do anything for others and make sure they are happy, that I get taken for granted.

I really don't want to change and become someone who isn't willing to be kind and helpful, but I don't to be walked all over either. So the only sensible thing is to take myself out of the dating game, I have already come to terms with the fact that I won't have any more kids (even though I'd love to).

I just hope that I am taking today the wrong way, but even if I am, it is still not how I deserve to be treated.

Thanks again for all your helpful comments.

I couldn't agree with you more, GEG, I am exactly the same. But you do have the choice of who you are lovely to. You don't have to be that generous to all men. There are signs and warning flags for choosing men. If you've picked a wrong 'un (and let's face it, we've all done that before), learn what these signs and warnings are, and next time choose wisely. Type 'dating red flags' into google and learn what the signs are.

In all truthfulness, it is okay to know that you have self-esteem issues, etc, but you shouldn't let that be an excuse for keep making the same mistakes. In the long run, would counselling help?