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Christmas trip with a friend

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Barbarella73 · 13/11/2024 10:48

Earlier this year, a good friend asked if I would like to rent a holiday home together for a few days over Christmas, and I said yes. I love Christmas, but how I spend it depends on various factors. Sometimes I spend it with my favourite sibling who lives in Sweden, sometimes with a friend/friends, and sometimes alone (which I like if I’ve had a busy year).

I said yes to my friend’s lovely invitation, and was really looking forward to it. She will bring her dog, and there will be a beach nearby for blustery Winter walks.

We’ve started planning in earnest over the last couple of weeks, and it’s becoming clear that my friend has very fixed ideas about food, films and how much time we will spend together. She really wants it to be four days of togetherness, eating her favourite foods, walking the dog and watching Carry On films.

I realise now that I’ve made the wrong decision. I don’t want to let her down, and so I’d like to make the best of it. Any suggestions as to how I can carve out time for myself during those few days? I’d really like to do some reading, meditating, and watch the odd rom-com or Scandi murder film, but she is intent on us having the best Christmas ever (including matching Christmas pyjamas for us and the doggo). I don’t want to spoil it for her.

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Opentooffers · 13/11/2024 11:09

Take a laptop or tablet if there aren't 2 tv's and watch your own thing in your room. A simple "carry on films aren't for me" should be easy to say. You sound like too much of a people-pleaser maybe. You've not necessarily made the wrong decision, but you do need to stand up for what you want to do. Making plans should be a 2 way discussion, so if you just silently nod at her plans and don't tell her you plans, you only have yourself to blame. Just say you'd like some time on your own to do your own thing here and there if that's what you want.

loropianalover · 13/11/2024 11:11

I really don’t understand OP 🤨 she can spoil it for you but you can’t spoil it for her?

Get up in the morning and head out for your walks, meditation etc. Grab your book and say ‘I’m going to sit in the spare room for a few hours with my book.’ Tell her you’re going to stick on a film you like. You really don’t need advice here you just need to do it. She’s not a child, I’m sure she’ll be fine.

TeaMeBasil · 13/11/2024 11:21

Have you told her what you'd like to eat and watch?

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