Great husband, but...

[legolifestyle]

My husband is great in so many ways. Has a busy job, teacher, does a lot of the housework, bakes sourdough bread every few days, makes fresh hummus every few days. Yesterday made a different meal for me so that I would have something for lunches for the next few days.

We have a 4 year old and 1 month old. Was great during the traumatic birth and difficult few weeks afterwards.

We haven't had sex for ages. We used to have great sex. And it's like we don't connect intimately anymore. I have mentioned this, and he acknowledges it. it's difficult because he has been experiencing what he thinks is Peyronie disease. Sex hasn't worked for a long time even when we have tried. He has finally made a doctors appointment for next week. Understandably he's embarrassed about going, and it's taken months for him to make the appointment.

He has a day off during the week and we spend that together with the baby, but it feels like there's always house mess and things to sort out. We don't have much time during the rest of the week to do this stuff.

I want to improve our relationship as I feel things are slipping away, but I don't know how. Any ideas? Please?

Strange to decide to have another baby when your relationship is already in trouble - about 3 years of no sex at the time of conception. Was it a hope to bind you together more?
If your eldest is in nursery, your husband gets a day off each week, and he does a lot of the housework, what's so busy? Maybe that will improve as your health improves and you are able to do more, it's still early days after your traumatic birth.
I'm not going to congratulate your DH about taking 4 years to see a GP, and the length of time makes me skeptical that it's a physical problem, but let's hope so.
Has he always been a runner? How long does he run for - does it take hours of his time up?
Overall I'd say 4 years of ignoring an issue whether it's physical, mental or otherwise, is going to be hard to turn around. I'd definitely be offering to go to the GP's with him for moral support (staying in the waiting room) see how he takes that.
Just wondering if there could be more to this than you know.

I'm struggling to see how making houmous and sourdough are positives. He seems to have opted out of the closeness that you are after by finding all sorts of ways to avoid being a couple.