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So long story short me and my ex have a 2 year old together, we've been split a week and last night he came to my house,into my house and harassed me and my kids to the point my older daughter was terrified. Part of me doesn't wanna report this as I am scared but somethings telling me I should?? We are living in fear

First, get your locks changed and keep your door locked today! Then call the police and report what happened. You must protect yourself and your children.

Speak to women’s aid. They will be able to advise and support you.

This domestic abuse and when a women ends the relationship is the most dangerous time. I’m not saying that to frighten you but to make you aware how serious this is and why you must report it to the police. They might not arrest him but they will speak to him and that might be enough to get him to back off.

Also, tell the children’s school what’s happening. They can help support you and most importantly, the children. They might be able to provide counselling for your children.

Don’t wait. Change the locks and report the incident today. Tell the police you’re all terrified. Tell them exactly what he did and how he did it in the presence of the children. Get an incident number and keep it logged in a diary. If he continues to harass you by coming to your home, the school, using social media/text/email, etc report everything so you can then have enough evidence to apply for a non mol. Women’s aid can support you through all of this.

You’ve done the right thing ending your relationship. It’s very brave of you. Now take these steps to keep yourself and the children safe.

I have logged everything in a notebook from the day he left. My older child is terrified. I've reported it and I don't know what's gonna happen next, I dread if there will be social work involvement 🥲

You have thrown him out and ended the relationship. Therefore, you have taken steps to protect the children. Social services will see that and back you up so long as you don’t let him back. Well done for reporting. Please get the locks changed.

The police gave him a warning, had no contact from him since. Social work will be involved now. He's homeless, living in his car, up to his eyes in debt with financial issues, I've no idea how things are gonna go now. I've never had to do anything like this. Locks were changed yesterday and CCTV is getting installed today

You don’t have to worry about him now. Those are his problems to sort out, not yours. Your loyalty is to your children and yourself. If SS are involved your end, it will be to check that you and the children are safe and that you’ve not taken him back again. Once that’s established and it’s confirmed you’re all safe, your case will be closed. Ask SS for anything you need to help you move on from this. Maybe that’s support through a course or a SS case worker who can take the children out whilst you attend the freedom programme or similar. Well done again for getting rid of him. You’ve done the right thing.