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Need a rant AIBU

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Cocobellax · 12/11/2024 22:50

So I’m 2 weeks postpartum after having a complex c section. I’ve got a 2 and a half year old toddler too.
My husband has been trying to look after me, I’m doing everything from
Feeds to changing each nappy for baby, and I’m changing my toddler morning and night. Every time I ask my husband to do something that needs to be done I.e put clothes on wash, wash baby’s bottles, fill
The thermos. He’s 7/10 times agitated and
responds to me in a mood and it’s really starting to get me. Yesterday I had a very bad day my little one had a procedure done and I was extremely nervous and I had no affection from my husband nothing in fact we argued and again today we’ve argued.
Today he came back from taking our toddler out and she fell
Asleep in the car, he put her down and as he walked in the room I said to him I want to give our baby bath before he goes to sleep, and he just went bloody he’ll I need 2 mins your always so rush, and I just said why can’t you just say things nicely and just say give me 2 mins in a nice manner. And he said that I expected him to do it then and the and I should be saying when you r free can you help me give baby a bath. Like why the fudk should I be tiptoeing I always do and I’m so sick of this man honestly
Feel like banging my head on a wall

OP posts:
Cocobellax · 12/11/2024 23:06

Bump need advice

OP posts:
Babycatsmummy · 12/11/2024 23:27

My partner and I often argue about the same sort of things. Our LO ( and first baby) is 6 months now and although he helps me as much as he can, we both get very snappy at each other.

Part of my problem is I spend all day with the baby and when he's had a bad day with teething, I can't wait for my partner to get home and " take over" so I can have a break. But he thinks because he's been at work all day he should be free to lounge on the sofa and fall asleep or go to the pub with his mates etc etc. I eventually had a massive meltdown and had to explain to him I need my time and we also need time as a couple without the baby.

It's incredibly stressful on a relationship and you are doing it with two as well! Maybe you both need to sit down when the kids are sleeping and open up how you are both feeling and find some common ground?

Big hugs OP x

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