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Arguing with partner

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FTM47 · 12/11/2024 21:49

Ok so very personal post which I’m hoping is anonymous but just wanted some outside perspective.

Me and my partner have been together 10 years. We have a toddler and I’m early pregnant with baby no2. The last month things between us has not been good. Instead of enjoying new baby bliss, we are either arguing or ignoring each other.

I’ve found the 1st trimester so much harder than before. I’ve been suffering with nausea, sickness, food aversion’s and am soooo tired and when I’m home from work, I’ve not been contributing like usual and he’s had to do a lot with our toddler which I appreciate is a lot when he works all day. The house is a mess and we are living in disorganised chaos.

But he’s just pissed off, you can just feel the energy. I’m not asking him to pander to me as I know he’s plate is full but just want some kindness and empathy. He’s always having a go at me about the mess in the house, and listing of things that need doing. Huffing and puffing. I know he just wants to say get over it already. And I just need him to cut me some slack. I’m doing my best.

I don’t feel he’s been very kind. I’m not sure what to do to resolve things as every conversation results into an argument and I’m not liking him very much right now.

Maybe someone’s been in a similar funk and what you did to get out of it. Or maybe even a male point of view! Tell me I’m doing wrong if I am.

OP posts:
SunshineSteve · 12/11/2024 22:07

Male point of view but I think this situation is more common than people realise. A lot of men will not appreciate what a full time job looking after kids is and that it’s inevitable that the house won’t stop clean and tidy like it used to. He needs to give you a break and just help out as much as he can, sure he’s had a tough day but so have you

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