Fed up of life?

[Painauraison]

I'm so fed up recently, and this is a regular occurrence.

I'm fed up of my husband and me being the glue holding everything together. I feel so tired, my brain is so busy, I'm emotional and nobody notices, I get period cramps alot even when I'm not on my period, I've got headaches and generally feel rubbish.

I'm fed up of being the default parent and carrying the load of the whole family on my shoulders, I'm fed up of trying to explain and ask for help to be asked what my problem is, why can't I just tell him to empty the clearly full up bin. I'm fed up of trying to make conversation at the table otherwise we would all sit there in silence, I want my husband to want to ask about mine and the kids days. I want to not be so tired and just feel like I am loved. All the hospital appointments for my daughter, the emailing schools, I work 3 x 10 hour days aswell as clearing up and organising everybody else. I work around my kids and husband but he says that I don't. He can come and go as he pleases, I can't, I'm trapped by this family and it's hard some days. I don't know how to make it better.
Moan over...

it sounds like a very unhappy home

for everyone

you get two days off?

Yes i have 2 days off in which i do the housework, run errands and support charities. Usually i arrange appointments for the kids on those days too. Since they went back in September I've not had a week where there's been no appointment!

i also have two days off
and even doing similar things to you… it’s definitely a slower pace and not “work”.

Im guessing he works full time?

I'm fed up of trying to make conversation at the table otherwise we would all sit there in silence,

your children don’t talk?

I do like the 2 days because I can tidy and listen to a podcast for example. I rarely sit down though! I'm paid for 30 hours but often do more because I'm self employed and it's necessary. Husband is full time yes, he's often away on 'drinking benders' - i mean work. It's very lonely! Husband is the sort of person that is available to his staff from 6.30 am to 10 at night and gives them his personal number at the weekends and there is always just something that needs doing...

Of course they do, but i meant that my husband would sit ignoring everyone thinking about his next work call at 7pm.

So you need to talk to him. Tell him how unhappy you are. Then tell your kids they need to help more and that dinner time is conversation time. And tell your husband that the kids don’t care what work he does that you all need more family time. Him to be there more, you all to go out places together and have board game nights. They need to make life more fun for all of you!

highly paid?

you did say sit in silence
so let him sit there and think about work
and you and children make merry!

sounds like he has a big and stressful job that is preoccupying

Oh sod off.

Ooooh, a Big Stressful Man Job!

you need some fresh air maybe a cup of tea 😆

Says the person who posted half a dozen times on the same thread having a go at OP. I am currently outside in the sunshine, (not UK) with an iced latte made for me by my husband who is not a prick like OP's, and you are a time-wasting troll.

I get you, I think it's the monotony of the same old, same old and all the home life being on your shoulders. I get like this occasionally too, when it happens I usually change things up, ie look at cleaning schedule and see if thinks can be done every 2 weeks rather than weekly , cut out anything that I really don't need to be doing and make time for me. Surely he can look after the kids one evening a week so you go out with friends or exercise.

but not in such a way to suggest they are very pissed off and angry! hope you you enjoyed that iced latte… yum!
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Hey OP. Just checking in to see if things ever got better or what you did?