Would this concern you?

[georgieporgiex]

Myself and my partner got together a few years ago, we did split up for a year but then got back together.

During the time we split he had got a new job and was also working along side his new bosses daughter, I've always had him on social media and admittedly during the time we were split I would have a stalk and we also have a few mutual friends. I noticed he would heart most of her photos.

Anyway, now since we've been back together he still works for the same boss, but rarely works along side the girl these days. I've noticed recently he messages her, nothing dodgy from what I've seen. Just talking about work. But tonight I noticed he sent her a funny video of another guy they work with, she replied back that it was funny he responded back "I know", then half an hour later he re sends the same video to her again? He's not sus wjth his phone at all, but I've seen these messages on the laptop tonight where his fb is logged in, please don't judge

Anyone else think he's just really trying to strike up a convo with her? She doesn't seem interested at all.

Sounds like he just accidently sent it to her a second time.

So if he's so forgetful that he forgot he sent it to her already then he's arguably not very into her is he! Mind you alternatively, she was on his mind when he intented to send the video to someone else. But that might mean nothing as, well, they recently spoke.

If she doesn't seem very into him then I guess its going nowhere. And if he isn't flirty, I don't think you anything much to go on. Why clutch at straws that might ruin your relationship?

I possibly could be. I think I just find it a bit cringe when it seems like he's trying to start a convo with her and she just doesn't seem that responsive. A couple of months ago one of his work friends sent him a meme of two people that were caught dogging, and jokingly added "you and jenny" . Maybe I'm just being paranoid or insecure. But it has made me wonder!

Hmm. Just keep an eye on the situation.

You could say something like 'Your bosses daughter...you're not behaving inappropriately right? Just checking. Don't wqnt you being misunderstood and getting fired'. And watch his response.

Could he have had a fling with her while you were split up? It doesn't sound like he's up to something now, his messages don't seem flirty - he probably sent the video twice by accident.

I don't think they've had a fling, in all honesty I don't think she'd be interested in him at all

I've had a look on the laptop tonight but looked more into his activity history on there, and he has been hearting all of her stories I can't see what they are just the different dates, but I'm guessing some of those would be selfies bikini photos etc.

She's an attractive young girl and always away on holidays etc. I knew he liked the occasional photo she uploads but to see he's hearting stories which no one else can see other than her, really makes me feel icky about him!

I feel really stupid and embarrassed that I've even looked, and it's made me feel quite insecure. Would this piss anyone else off? Even though I'd be sad I'm seriously considering just ending things here!

There is no gentle way to say this: your relationship is done. You don’t trust him and are sneaking around on his laptop looking at his social media history.

I know what you mean. I've never had concerns about him physically cheating, just from what I've seen with how he acts with this one girl online seriously gives me the ick. But you are probably right me even looking is a red flag in itself.

OP, you are wasting your time with him.
He's a bit of a creep, sleazing after her.
She isn't interested but that hasn't stopped him.
I can understand you feeling icky.

Don't waste any more time on him.
He isn't good enough for you.

Dump but just tell him you are no longer interested in him.

Don't give him the soot of the truth.

Glad someone else finds it creepy. She knows he's in a relationship so I wouldn't be surprised if she's seeing him hearting everything and cringing herself at him!

So you don't think I should mention why and that I think he's gross?

It won’t take long to progress into something more then the messages will be more frequent. I’ve just come across similar with my dh, I sat on it for a while as I just wanted to watch and see if it would go any further but then as I picked up his phone there was a message from her replying to a message he had sent but that had been deleted and I lost my shit, tbh I think I stopped something that was about to become more which would of destroyed our marriage and family as I wouldn’t be able to forgive him so I’m glad I looked.

Now I've seen myself how often he's hearting her stories which only she can see, I do wonder if she did engage with him more he'd deffo message her more. Even her lack of interest just makes me feel embarrassed.
I don't understand why they feel the need to do it just makes you feel like shit. She's obvs not interested so take the hint

I wonder what message he'd sent then deleted, did you ask him?

He was offering her emotional support, I got the deleted messages up myself as it was on iMessage and you can get them back easily, so I’ve seen everything, I was going to confront him that day anyway but then I see he had yet again message and deleted them, I was also going through a terrible time and yet he kept thinking of this “friend” when his thoughts should of solely of been with me, that’s what really hurt and also I was blissfully unaware that whilst I was getting on with the norm he was sitting there texting another woman and deleting them, he over stepped a bit with a couple of his comments and that’s why I had to tell him I know about it. the thing is I didn’t even mind them being friends and him seeing how she was it was when I realised that he had started deleting them, on every single message there was x’s and love hearting her messages, it’s the double standards as well for me because he would go ballistic if it was the other way around. He deleted her number straight away off his own back when I confronted him but he didn’t block her so now I will still be checking and looking over my shoulder. It’s a horrible feeling x