I have been married for over 30 years and realised two years ago that something wasn't right. Over the years he has consistently called me aggressive (if I slightly raise my voice), argumentative (if I disagree with him about anything), over critical (I only have to look at him and he accuses me of having a go at him) and many more things. It got to the point where I believed I was all those things and started to doubt/question who I was. It's got to the stage where I am too scared to say anything as everything I say is perceived as an accusation, argument, criticism. To other people he appears to be the model person - respectful, helpful (he goes out of his way to help others) and I have often been told how lucky I am to be married to him. But I am so miserable. He doesn't make any effort to listen to me (he spends so much time on his mobile), he doesn't show any interest in my life (I have had the same job/working hours for 3 years and he still asks me everytime what days/hours I am working), he does not know my favourite food/music, I could go on. I so want to leave but am scared. I think he could get nasty especially with money (he once told me out of the blue that my savings weren't mine, that he would get half if we split up). Not sure why I am writing. I guess to see if anyone else is or has been in the same situation.