Ex's new partner

[yellowduckling1]

This has been done to death.

But I feel sad, and don't feel like I have anyone to talk too.

I share one child with my ex, he's just met someone (within the last 3 months) and they are already living together. New woman has 2 kids.

I just feel sad that my DS gets to see his dad for 2 hours EOW if that. He will see these children so much more. Ex does not want DS overnight and has moved over 2 hours away.

How is he ok with this?? Pretty much bringing up someone else's kids, and doing less than the bare minimum for his own.

I have been single since the split 2 years ago, and probably will for a while.

The reality is that he probably just needed a roof over his head and she is stupid for letting a stranger live with her kids.

Your child is better off with you then with a man who jumps into living with someone he won’t even really know.

I doubt that he's bringing up her kids. If they've met and moved in within 3 months he's probably just looking for a cheap and convenient place to live with sex and free childcare thrown in.

Where was he living before?

He was living in a private rental. But was struggling with the cost. It does seem he is doing it for convenience. Just seems so silly to upset all these children (he has 2 others from a previous relationship) so that's 5 between them.

Years ago, people used to live together as a kind of "trial marriage". To see if they were compatible before they actually tied the know.

Now, people just do it for financial reasons. How romantic lol!

Yeah thanks all, even if they are all playing happy families for now it's unlikely it will stay this way.

You're looking at this the wrong way op. I would hate to live with someone else's kids. They're hard enough when you love the bones of them. You've got the better deal here!

Honestly, try not to give him any head space. Focus on your career and your ability to support yourself financially when your son becomes 18 and all the child related money stops.

He has 3 kids including one with you who he does SFA for.

He isn't playing happy families and she is a being a mug.

@Chowtime @arethereanyleftatall @user1471538283 omg you are all so right, children are very hard work. I'm so glad I posted on here. I wouldn't wana live with anyone else's kids.

@Reugny she is being a mug. But I know how convincing ex can be.

I fell hook line and sinker.

He still had the ability to get in my head (as you can probably tell)

I start therapy next week, hoping to build up some resilience.

If anyone else wants to give me a pep talk I will happily take it 🥲

Different situation but tonight I am really struggling with my ex not seeing my son for six weekends in a row. He lives a five minute drive away. It's sickening. I feel your pain. There is nothing we can do.

I'm sorry to hear this. He's a bloody idiot and I hate him for you.

You are doing an amazing job, you and your child deserve better than this.

You shouldn't have to be this strong, and we should be able to share the load. I hope he sorts his act out soon.

It's horrible, but we are in this together ❤️