36F relationship with 50M

[cushionstar]

Hi I'm 36f and in a relationship with a 50m is there anything I need to know about future age gap relationship.

When you're 56 and they are retired they turn into Victor Meldrew. :)

Run now

That he probably comes with a lot more baggage than you

Is he fit and healthy? Does he have interests outside your relationship?

If the answer is yes to both of those, I suspect the age gap won’t be that much of an issue.

He'll be showing signs of aging whilst you're in your prime.
The early signs are subtle and hard to pinpoint but they're there. Slowing down, more easily flustered, slight irritability.

No-one's fault, just natural aging.
But it might not match your embrace on life.

Wouldn’t be for me. Not enough detail though. He’s either got to 50 without settling down and having children which is concerning or he has a ton of baggage. Do you want to be 46 with a pensioner?

Same age gap here and the only differences that show up are cultural ones. My other half will refer to something and ask me if I remember it too (could be a simple thing like a song being No 1) and I feel a bit awful saying sorry I can’t I was only 4 at the time!
It all depends on the person. I have to deal with someone who gets up and does fitness classes at 7.30 am every morning and then runs a business. He’s technically a pensioner but he’s the youngest one I’ve ever met! Still loves fashion, music, culture and travel.
He has a busier social life than I do, he is really healthy and very youthful in his approach to life.
The only thing I can admit is had I met him at 36 I might not have thought about a relationship as I may have been thinking about children.
However, a decade later that ship had sailed.

What you are describing is not that big an age gap really. I know of three couples where it is 20+ years. For a man, especially when he is older, it is an attractive proposition that I expect most men would like the thought of. The most obvious factors being the physical beauty of a younger person and the likely higher interest in and energy for sex.
I'm less certain about what's in it for the woman, but it is not that unusual an arrangement. If you are very happy together and want to share each other's lives, then why not.

Married at 39/52 almost 20 years ago.
We planned for me to retire early else I think I would have resented working years after he finished (no children).
We have some separate interests which helps.
He is starting to feel his age a bit, but then I have a long term health condition which can be limiting so support goes both ways.
When I was worried before we married my DM pointed out that you never know what life will bring and if you find someone to be happy with, you make the most of it.

Hey I am in an age gap relationship I am 36F and DP is 52M. The age gap is fine for us. We talk about what the future looks like and working together on a plan so that when he winds down working that hopefully I can do the same.

I would also say that whilst its more typical that the older partner will need looking after health wise later on in your relationship anything can happen to anyone at any time. For example, I was diagnosed with cancer last year, completely on the road to recovery and will now be monitored as the % likelyhood of return is unfortunately high. I am saying this because any one of us can get ill at anytime and rely on our other halves to help us through. Some illnesses do not discriminate by age :(

If it feels right and you are on the same paths and looking forward to the same things in life go for it xx

With the advent on online dating age gap relationships seem to be becoming more & more common, particularly ones with an older man & younger woman.

If you don't want kids and you can put up with his baggage then it's fine. At the end of the day, it's only what the two of you think & feel about it that matters really.
I sense because you are on here asking about it that you aren't that sure about it though.

Financially secure, wisdom, experience perhaps. Wouldn’t be for me though.

By the time you're retirement age at 67 (if it stays there!), he'll be 81 and will have been retired quite a long time. At that stage of your lives, it'll probably feel a big gap and he may require your care rather than be looking at enjoying retirement together. (Obviously if your finances will allow you to retire earlier that makes a difference).

I don't think at your current ages there will feel much of a difference.

I've been with DH since we were 32 and 47. We've been together 10 years. No issues age related yet!

My husband is 15 years older than me, he's still the kind and loving man he's always been but in the last few years I've really noticed him slowing down and I can see myself becoming his carer in the future. He was a very fit 50 when we met, now he's a slightly doddery 70. I don't have any regrets, but I can see the future and it's looking like hard work!

Not this old chestnut again 😄 and why are you writing like you're on Reddit.

Yes the elasticity of his nutsack will be weak so expect him not to look as fresh down there as a man your own age.

How long have you been together?

I echo previous posters sentiments, the age gap may feel like nothing now but is likely to soon change. I speak from experience.

I wouldn't do it again personally. In another 10 years he is likely to be acting like and old man while you are still in your prime.

OP hasn't come back, dump and leave.🙄