Has anyone sustained a relationship on very little time together?

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8 weeks ago I met an amazing man. We click on every level but struggling to meet up due to clashing childcare schedules. He has a very fluid schedule with his ex at the moment with no set pattern. They are in the process of agreeing something more formal but that hasn't happened yet.

I want more time with him but it's not going to improve until the schedule is set or we introduce the children to each other.

Has anyone managed a relationship with seeing their partner 2-4 a month? We text daily and chat regularly. I just struggle with the lack of physical connection.

Yes, 5 years now and we only see each other two weekends a month, with the occasional extra few days if my kids are on holiday with their dad.

@Justme2023123 was it like that from the beginning? How has it been?

Apart from when COVID first hit, yes it's always been the same. It works for me because I get my time with my children, a couple of child free nights on my own each week, and then some quality time with the fella every other weekend. It wouldn't work for everyone, but I like the balance I have.

I had a relationship that worked on 2x 6-hour blocks of time together a week, with very occasional whole weekends or Wednesday nights. It was due to long distance and weird shift patterns. Lasted a year, was a lot of fun.

Very similar to @Justme2023123 here but we're only 3 years in. It suits me fine, I don't want to move in and apart from it would be nice to have a bit more sex I enjoy having my space. It keeps things fresh.

2 and a half years in. We spend every other weekend together when the kids are with their dad. He occasionally pops round on the weekend I do have the kids for a couple of hours. We go on holiday together once a year. Other than that we are in contact every day and I know he'd drop everything in an instant if I needed him. (In fact he has done on several occasions)
Like PP, I like being able to spend time with my kids and on my own/with friends. It's the perfect balance, although I also wouldn't say no to more sex/physical contact.

I had a 2.5 year relationship which was seeing each other 3 out of 4 weekends only due to our work patterns. I work a straight 9-5 he worked from midday till about 10pm then 1 weekend a month.

It worked fine for us we just made sure we made most of our time usually out to eat Friday evening then s chilled Saturday daytime and most weekends we went out Saturday night.

Tbh that would work for me again if I key someone.

Yes. 2 years in and generally every other weekend when children with their dad and sometimes over for dinner on Wednesday evenings. Definitely keeps things fresh and feeling very fortunate for the quality time we do spend together. It works, both very happy and committed and we speak and message each day throughout the day

Weekends only and the occasional
Night in the week, almost three years , weekends are still lots of fun.
Txt lots in the day and chat to keep the connection and it works well.

Should add it's due to different shift patterns.

It can work but both parties must be okay with that type of physical and emotional distance. Doesn't sound like you are - you are the more hands on type so I don't see this working for you long term.

The other thing I want to point out is that you only met him 2 months ago. Are you two a committed couple like where you sat down and talked about a future together, or are you jumping the gun ASSUMING he is your "partner" because you talk on the phone every day?

These things are important to ask. If he is not your confirmed committed partner you are totally free to investigate other options. If he is under these circumstances is this sustainable? Will it meet your needs if it never changes or doesn't change for a year or more? Be honest with yourself.

Yes, and it's very frustrating and challenging. We've been together 6 years and at best see each other every other weekend (because of dc). There's been occasions where we've not seen each other at all for 6 to 8 weeks, when we've simply not been free on the same weekend. We only live 10 minutes apart, but other commitments get in the way. Thought it would get easier as the dc got a bit older, but it's actually made it harder as they have more activities/hobbies/sports going on. Youngest is 10 now, so we're resigned to at least another 5-6 years of the current situation. Not really sure if we'll last that long unfortunately.