Age Gaps

[Char65]

What do people think about age gap relationships? I'm 60 and my DH is 73 and my brother is 62 and his second wife is 39. Ironically me and my brothers second wife both married at 25.

39 and 62 is too big an age gap for me. Your age gap is just at the tolerance limit.

There's a possibility I know you actually - the details fit with someone I know!

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60 and 73 is fine.

The older the two people are I think the less it matters.

100 year old dating an 80 year old? meh so what.
40 year old dating a 20 year old? Creepy!

I had a wonderful fling with a man 20 years younger (30 and 50). He was keen for it to be more serious but I never would have done it to him wrt children and me wrt retirement plans. Happy memories though!
I wouldn’t want to be with someone more than 10 years older because I love the outdoors and being active and the difference in what we’re physically capable of would eventually start to diverge.

39 and 62 sounds a bit grim tbh. My last ex was 5 years older than me and that seemed too big an age gap at times.

Im 58 now and think 62/63 is as old as I could go. Older than that would seem too much.

My 2 favourite ex boyfriends were 13 years older than me and 18 years younger.

My last husband was 11 years younger thsn me. We got married when he was 29 and I was 40. It was fine for 15 years then i got fed up with him. He wasnt responsible financially, was never endingly sex pestering when I was going through the menopause and didnt have enough life experience. I got sick of it and we got divorced.

I think once everyone is an established adult then age stops mattering much. It's all about life stages.

A 20 year gap will feel massive if one is in the school run days and the other winding down for retirement, but if both are in the young kids stage then you won't feel it as much.

I dated someone much older for quite a long time but when we got together we were both in the same life stages and grew through the next few together. There was never any conflict due to our ages because of that. Sadly he died very suddenly of a non-age related illness after 15 wonderful years together. I don't regret any of it.

If I ever date again (really not feeling like I want to at the moment) then I'll be focusing on life stages Vs age again.

I have a 19 year gap. We get on brilliantly and there is no power imbalance.