Am I just being insecure or should I worry?

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Been with DP 2 1/2 years. He has his 2 DS 5 out of 14 nights and I stay with him the rest of the time.

We generally chat via WhatsApp throughout the day but I've not heard from him since yesterday afternoon

He had his DS's over the weekend and Sunday nights there tend to be busy as do Monday mornings. I know he's full on in work at the moment as a project has gone tits up

But now I'm worrying something is wrong. I've messaged him this morning but not heard from him. He's not been on line either - it's perfectly possible that he's been rushing this morning getting the boys up and to school and most likely had meetings all morning - he's sometimes on teams meetings walking n to work

I'm just really worrying something is wrong - it's not like him not to be in touch but I always catastrophise

Has your DP been in touch now? If not, I would be concerned too but, like you, recognise there is probably a good reason for his silence. Have you messaged him to ask him to send a quick WhatsApp so you know he's OK?

Not yet

He's not been on WhatsApp at all - though I have sent a message

I'd usually pick him up from work today at 5 - so I asked 'am I collecting you' but no reply yet

Would it be a good idea to phone his office to check he's there?

I was thinking of that - but they don't really check who's on site and who isn't as it's really flexible - they don't even have their own desks. I'd he's there he could be anywhere on campus and no one could know where

Tricky! It might still be worth talking to someone on reception - assuming there is one - and asking if one of the reception/security team has seen him around today.

My message has been delivered

Possible he forgot to pick up his phone this morning? (Clutching at straws??) though he does usually check his pockets before he leaves he's very forgetful

He’s probably been rushing about, forgot his phone, (you say he’s very forgetful) and he’s now stuck at work unable to contact you. If you normally pick him up from work, I would just do as you normally do and be there to pick him up. If he’s not there, then I’d go to his house to check if he’s ok. It’s prob just that he doesn’t have his phone though.

The 'message delivered' message is a bit annoying, isn't it? All it tells you is the phone is on. I'd still be tempted to call the office and then turn up as normal to collect him.

You're right - I'll just turn up and hope he's there. It's so out of character

Let us know when you get back so we know everything's OK.

Thanks I will

He left his bloody phone in his lunch bag which he put in the fridge

He found it when he went to have his lunch at about 4pm - to say he needs to grovel in an understatement

Grovel? Really?

Glad everything's fine. The fridge story made me laugh 😃

I think he should put you in the fridge because you really need to chill out. Grovel?! Wtf?! If you were a guy I’d tell your partner you were controlling and that was a massive red flag! 🚩

Before I read your update, I was going to suggest phoning all of his mates, all the pubs, his work, the hospitals, the police stations, the prisons, the fire stations, the butcher, the baker, the fishmonger, his ex-girlfriends, his mates from year 11, all of his primary school friends, his old teachers, that friend he met at Butlins when he was 9, all of his insta followers and every player of his footy team!

Jesus christ OP!! Why do so many women go apeshit and phone around everyone if their partner doesn't answer the phone or text back within 0.1 seconds or is out half a bloody hour more than usual?!!

The grovel was a joke 🙄🙄