I was with my ex for around 13 years. He was abusive. Coercive control, manipulation. Gaslighting. Silent treatment. Isolated me from friends and family. We've been split up 7 years but have 2 dc who were babies att the time he finally left.
I've been single since then. No interest or desire in another relationship. But. So who I've found one. And he is the kindest most thoughtful and caring man. But my past relationship comes back to haunt me. And has a strong, negative influence on my thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
How do I move on from this? I don't want to ruin what we have. I don't want to struggle abd suffer because my thoughts are trained to go one way.