Starting this by saying I have told Adult social care who seem to think he is coping fine and will not even talk about supported living, he is not under mental health and the housing officer who came out to see it with her own eyes said everything was fine..
My son wanted to live indipednatly, he is 24, ASD. He has a flat. He is not coping, he never has coped and he never will cope and things are just going from terrible to even worse than that.
I was cleaning for him weekly until I no longer could.. I was doing his washing until I no longer could, making sure he didn't miss appointments, taking him to the doctors, cooking for him because he can't etc then people started telling me to step out and let 'them' step in or he would never learn for himself.. So I listened and for the last six months I have done nothing for him..
Been to his flat today and lets just say they wouldn't leave an animal to live in these conditions..
Mold everywhere, Moldy food, fridge full of months out of date food, more mold, mold in all his cups, rotting food all over the floor, flies and maggots everywhere, rubbish all over the floors (so much that there is now a 'walkway' he has made by pushing all the rubbish to one side, Outside black bin been dragged into his livingroom and left there stinking, He has got rid of his cats litter tray and has now just opened a bag of litter and poured it all over his bedroom floor (in his mind then he wouldn't have to remember to change the litter) the cat has been using this litter which is directly on his carpet.. Cat shit all over the litter and carpet.. Even the cat shit has a layer of white fluff over it..
His toilet is blocked that badly it's unusable, Apart from the moldy stuff he has zero food in his flat and no cat food, His mattress is so black and moldy that you can smell it from a mile away, All his clothes have been stuffed into his washing machine I assume months ago because even they are moldy, bottles full of pee all around in each room, pills open and thrown all over the floor (perscription)
I can't fix it this time, I don't even know where to start.
Apart from the above he doesn't pay any of his bills (He forgets, then when i remind him says I'm being controlling of treating him like a child etc) he doesn't buy groceries, Never once known him to buy a toilet roll for example, refuses to use his shower because of his ASD, Hates getting his hands wet hence never washing a cup etc, Instead of getting a proper food shop (tried so many times to take him for it or I even used to do it online but he didn't want me to) he will go to the local shop and buy a pot noodle or something equally as shit and live off that.
I genuinely don't know what to do. I keep thinking when I'm no longer here what will happen to him, I have two chronic illnesses and can't do what I was once able to do.
If adult social care and an housing officer won't help when who will?