Plucking up courage to chuck him out (cheater))

[Alicew00]

He recently started staying at mine every night. 3 years of a relationship, luckily no kids.
But I have 2. I need to pluck up the courage to leave him. He texted another girl/woman whatever you call her saying he wants to fook her and telling her she has a sexy body and wants her to suck him etc.

But there's nothing about actually meeting up. This is all from August 1st to 18th.

I am in total shock I don't think I have processed it all yet.
Recently he said he wants to move in and he will never hurt me.
Disgusting.

You don't have to chuck him out if he hasn't moved it. Just tell him that you are no longer interested in pursuing a relationship with him.

Dump by text.
Keep him the hell away from you, your home, your children.
He is scum that wants to use you and your home clearly.

Text him it’s over then block him everywhere. He’s scum. You can do better. Being single is better than being with a scumbag like this. You’ll be fine. As long as you end this relationship.

Yea just send him a dear John text and bag up his belongings and put them by the door for him to collect

wtf
Why isn't this post saying- kicked him to the kerb for sexting another woman

He doesn’t live with you full time do you’re kit kicking him out.

Just tell him fuck off and never come over again. If he has a key ask for it back.

Don't let this creep spend another night under your kids roof

If he has a key, maybe change the locks so he can’t come back.

He hasn't moved in and he's a scumbag. Why are you even thinking about him?

I've took the key. Now just to tell him to leave. And that will be very shortly.

Why have you waited since Aug? Genuine question?

I'm assuming she means the texts were in August but she's just seen them.

Tbf I'd just leave his stuff on the doorstep, lock my doors and text him he's dumped.

People who feel the need to say 'I'd never hurt you' are the sort of people who are probably already doing hurtful things behind your back.

It's basically 'I'm a nice guy'. Nice guys don't need to say they are nice guys.

Thank god you found out before he moved in.

You are, in this way, so lucky OP.

Much easier break.
Hope it's straightforward for you.

Don't get reeled back in.

Best not tell him the truth.
Just that its not working for you.
Scum like him will desperately try to convince you its a silly mistake.

He clearly needs accommodation.
No man as loving as one that needs a bed.

I agree. He's gone. I basically told him to get his stuff and f off.
It's done. And never going back. I don't want any trust issues

Good job op.

Sets a good example for your kids too, not taking any shite from people. You're a primary example for them for how relationships should look afafterall. We don't tolerate cheats and liars.