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[citynbeach]

Been with my partner 1.5 years. I have a busy life with work, kids & elderly parents. He lives alone. He is very kind, prioritises me & helps with anything I ask. But he was always causing arguments saying that I didnt spend enough time with him. We see each other 2-3 times a week. I was honest about my lack of time right from the start. Lately he's been accusing me of lying about the most simple things (which I wasn't). The final straw was he called me a f'ing c**t when he thought I'd been out & I hadn't. I've ended it, blocked him & have ignored his calls. Don't want to doubt myself but I am

Don’t doubt yourself op. That is inexcusable abuse.

Don’t doubt yourself OP. This is definitely not you, it’s him

He’s a casual boyfriend really- not a partner .
sounds like you just both wanted different things form this - no drama - just move on .

Well done, OP. Never let anyone talk to you like that.

@Fidgety31 I will try to just move on. Def wasn't casual though. We were committed & weren't seeing anyone else. People in LDRs don't see each other often, doesn't mean it's casual

What are you doubting? He sounds horrible.

That’s inexcusable.

Lucky escape he sounds miserable.

You've done the right thing!

I wouldn't say it was casual, no. But it's not been very long. I know it's nice to have someone to hold you & help you & you get emotionally invested when the rest of your life is hard/busy /stressful. But on the other hand, you need someone who truly understands how busy you are & someone who doesn't call you names & accuse you of lying!!

Don't doubt yourself (you've done the right thing) and don't try & make up with him. It's hard, but you're stronger than you think!!

To use that language to your face is inexcusable. It was very direct and aimed at you. Had he said "don't be so fucking unreasonable" or swore like that then that is ok as we can all get heated in that way. But he was putting you down and being vile, he needs to learn to be able to talk to people about his worries and concerns and insecurities without being nasty and controlling. Stay well away!

Thanks you've all given me the strength I need to stand firm!

I know that your life can only improve. Often it's better to be by yourself.