DH refusing to deal with ED

[Bounty9]

Name change because I’m a bit embarrassed tbh and am on here quite a lot.

DH is 30, I am 31. Sex has never been mind blowing in the 10 years we’ve been together but it also hasn’t been terrible. He’s always finished relatively quickly but makes me finish first so it didn’t particularly matter.

We had DD 2.5 years ago, and since then our sex life has dwindled, as it does. Except for the last year he’s had ED. At first he would lose an erection halfway through but now he loses it before he even comes near me. I asked if he would go to the doctor but he won’t, he says he just gets in his head about it, and he won’t take viagra because he thinks it’s for older people.

To be honest I’m somewhere in between being worried for him and sexually frustrated, we haven’t been able to have sex for 6 months now.

How on earth do I convince him to speak to someone? I feel like it’s driving us apart.

At what point did I say porn alone was the cause of ED? Oh that’s right, I didn’t! So stop putting words in my mouth. Another man defending porn and talking down to women. Buzz off will ya.

Right back at you - where did I say or imply I was defending porn? Stop putting words in my mouth.

I said I was advised by a medical professional to watch porn for stimulation and that the type and frequency of porn one watches can effect his ability to perform.

where did you defend it or imply? “there are more studies to show that porn can be beneficial for men”

Piss right off. I’m done with you

Jesus Christ, you’ve missed out quite a vital part of my statement; that being WITH ED.

I am not saying porn is great, neither am I saying I am a lover of porn, what I said was , I was given medical advice by a professional to watch porn to stimulate blood flow.

for a bit of background. I had Peyronies, then ED ( not through watching porn ) then atrophy; and now I have an implant.

so I think I’m pretty well qualified to say I know what I’m talking about.

@Bounty9 apologies for derailing your thread, that wasn’t my intention.

does he get NTE ( night time erections ) / morning wood? If he does then that is a good sign and is an indication that it is probably psychological rather than a physical issue, although NTE do take different neurological paths so it’s certainly not definitive.

if he doesn’t, then this is the clearest sign that there is something a mss. With no NTE he is being devoid of fresh blood blow; an integral part of a healthy penis and over time ( 6-12 months) he will begin to get atrophy, where his penis shrinks.

if more men knew this and understood the consequences of not seeking help i guarantee they will go to the doctors much sooner.

secondly, can he get hard(er) when he is alone? If the issue doesn’t arise when he is having ‘alone time’ then it will be psychological.