Over 50s single

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Is anybody here who can tell me happy story. I'm in my mid 40s can't divorce yet won't go into details need to wait another 3 years when kids will be 18. Is anybody who started fresh around 50 divorced and is happy in relationship and life is good ?

I'm curious why you need to wait till the children are 18 ?? Its going to cause upset whenever you decide to start divorce proceedings surely??

58, split with 27 year DP 2016, a 2.5 year rebound relationship and now very very happily single since March 2020.

Great friends and social life that I’ve built for myself. If a man comes along all well and good but I’m really not that fussed.

Very kindly, If you're planning your "new future" based around finding a man, you really need to manage your expectations.

64, and so happily single that you wouldn't believe it. I still get approaches made, mind you, but I've picked up my last pair of skiddy underpants and listened to my last night of snoring.

Single now for five years and wouldn't have another man if his cock was made of diamonds.

Split with ex-H in my mid 30s. Dated on and off for for about 8 years. Gave up completely in my early 40s. Started again at 50 having had a couple of years of counselling and having really worked on loving my own life as a single person. Met DP at 52 and we've been together for over 3 years now.

My advice would be to love your life all by yourself and see finding a partner as the icing on an already fabulous cake. That means you are starting from a place of confidence and belief in yourself and makes you much better at weeding out all the red flag wavers.

Not quite the same. But I've just had lunch with a very good friend today. Her DH passed away summer before last. At lunch today she told me she'd met someone else. I was absolutely delighted for her. And she looks so wonderful.
You can do this. And absolutely no need to wait. Stress does terrible things to your skin hair and mental well being, so don't wait.

I'm 48 and a single parent.
My ex left so it wasn't my choice.
I'm peaceful and the kids are doing ok.
You need to focus on b ING happy by yourself
The chances of finding another decent relationship are close to zero at this age, unless you want a much older man. I definitely don't.
I almost wish I fancied women .

I was widowed at 48 and met dp at 51. 3 years later we are very happy and I love being with him. Doesn't mean it's perfect and in your situation I would really, really enjoy being single for a bit. I dated a LOT because I have an inconveniently high sex drive but didn't see many of them twice, and did love having the house to myself. The happy next stage (you're a long way off the ending) can look any way you like.

I was 50 when i started seeing DP, he was 54 and had been single for 8 years, we have been together for 2 years, live together and getting married next year, we are both very happy.

You're only mid 40s, you're still comparatively young, OP. I agree with pp who say enjoy your time on your own, get to know yourself. I met DP when I was 60, if that helps you at all, although I had been happily alone for a few years before that.

Don't fancy your chances. Could depend on how broad your social circle is as you have to put yourself out there. If your aiming to rely on OLD - forget it.

I separated from my dh a 5 years ago when I was in mid-forties. Had a rebound relationship, tried online dating (hated it), met my wonderful dp aged 50 in a local cafe, just started by friendly chatting. 1 year+ on, we're very happy, life is good. Very much agree with the points above about being happy alone and comfortable with yourself as a starting point.