Should I make up with her?

[xTiffanyx]

Hi, I was just wondering whether I could get some advice please.

long story short. A couple of years back I fell out with a former friend of about 10 years. Partly her fault, partly my husbands fault. My husband fancied ( the pants off ) her, and she would use that to her advantage. Over the top flirting on nights out, trying to twist his words and make out he was coming on to her, when he wasn’t. He didn’t help himself though by following her around like a lost puppy, buying her drinks etc while ignoring me most of the night. Anyway, after 1 night out I had enough so I called her out. We stopped talking and just carried on with our life’s.

I’ve recently found out that her and her boyfriend are moving near us. We both have dogs so are bound to see each other out quite a lot. My question is, should I make up with her, to make it less awkward when we do see each other? Or Atleast be on talking terms.

I’ve seen her boyfriend a few times since, and he always gives me evils, and comes across as quite intimidating. Even though I feel I did nothing wrong, other than call out his girlfriend’s behavior.

My husband has wanted me to make up with her the whole time. Quite obvious why though.

He’ll occasionally ask if I know what she’s been up to or if I know any gossip about her / them. Even if I did I wouldn’t tell him anything. After the last time he asked I told him never to ask again.

There are loads of kind, clever, funny people in the world with integrity OP. Who have no interest in stirring up trouble between couples. Befriend them when you meet them. As for this woman, you can say 'hello', smile, respond to her queries shortly and politely and leave silences comfortably. You don't have to get involved. You chosen to overlook your husband's involvement to a certain degree. I think I would want to keep her at arm's length and let him know that his gossipy enquiries aren't a great look for someone he openly had a crush on.

@xTiffanyx
He’ll occasionally ask if I know what she’s been up to or if I know any gossip about her / them.
come on now, you can't keep up this naive act. He's clearly still thinking about her, he is your problem not this woman, it's obvious she's avoiding you because of your lech of a man.

Too be fair it's both of them . Flirting isn't one way . She sounds like she enjoyed having power over him and encouraged his crush . Don't invite trouble back in to your life again .